Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

BEAR

Doesnt worry me either way. Hub works with tools so doesnt wear one then but puts it on when we go out as he loved to wear it then

It's a ring! it could be taken off when you are not with him...trust him 100% instead

System

Judi wrote: »

It doesnt make me any the less married though.

Aw crud! I thought it was like adverse possession. After 12 years without a ring the marriage is void? Oh well, back to the drawing board. It looks like re-laying the patio is the only option

Taadaa

I gave my DH a choice, as like your DH to be, he very rarely wears jewellery, and had certainly never worn a ring. He decided that he wanted to wear one, although the one he wears now is not the original (long story), but is more comfortable for him in terms of being D-shaped etc as it took a bit of getting used to when he first wore it.

A couple we met at another wedding from Australia ended up buying rings because people thought they weren't really married! Ridiculous in my opinion, to have to feel it necessary to bow down to other people's expectations.

At the end of the day, it's just a piece of metal. He is committing to you, you have no doubts about that, or the longevity of his feelings. I can understand that you were expecting him to wear one and now feel a bit disappointed. But..you have yor entire lives to be excited about, moving on to the next stage of your relationship, having children if that is your choice, etc. Wearing a ring, or not, doesn't detract from any of that.

Maybe you should say 'well as we are saving a bit of money on you not having one, I get an extra special one!!'

You could always exchange something meaningful during the ceremony, other than a ring on his side, if you want the symbolism of it. Can't think what off the top of my head, but it could be something that represents you or your family, that he won't have to wear afterwards.

mildred1978

My father is on his second wedding ring in 36 years having worn the first away (never took it off, lots of DIY etc).

I rarely wear my wedding or engagement rings. It doesn't other me or my husband (who rarely wears his either).

arbroath_lass

My husband and I both have wedding rings but rarely wear them. He will occasionally wear his when we go out (if he can find it!). TBH he wears his more often than I do. We've been married 22 years it doesn't bother either of us. Wedding rings were the "done thing" then (gods I sound old) if we got married now I doubt we'd bother with them.

Gloomendoom

megc wrote: »

I've been brought up in a family and era where men did wear rings and it feels really important to me...

Ha ha! I'm a husband who was brought up in a family and era where men didn't wear any form of jewellery... unless they were poofs or pirates, of course.

I have a ring but it is for ceremonial duties only. I wore it for the wedding and the honeymoon but now it stays in its box. I hate wearing the damned thing.

My wife has absolutely no problem with this. As a poster above said, it doesn't make me any the less married.

maman

It strikes me as a matter of personal preference and if OP's partner doesn't want one then so be it. Personally I feel men wearing wedding rings look as if their wives have stamped 'keep off' on them. I'm glad my DH doesn't want one and never has. I wear my nana's ring as my grampa asked us (my mother previously) to.

podperson

My OH has never worn any kind of jewellery in the time I've known him so it wouldn't bother me if he didn't want a wedding ring. As others have said it doesn't make you any less married. Also if he does work with machinery, tools etc he would probably need to remove for work anyway - my uncle lost half his little finger due to wearing a ring at work, getting it caught on something and ripped the whole thing off :eek:

Indout96

There is no reason not to wear a wedding ring due to machinery, when I got married I worked in engineering, my ring went in my locker at start of shift and back on my finger at end of shift.
I would be lost without mine but wife sometimes has to leave hers off as she suffers with swolen fingers (had to have ring cut off before now)

VestanPance

I never wore one when I was married. I dislike jewellery, even to the point that I never wear a watch.

I was never unfaithful, my ex who did wear one was, so the ring is no magic protection for anything.

My thoughts on jewellery most likely have a bit of bias from having grown up around folk where the men never did wear any jewellery, wedding ring or otherwise, so I've always viewed it as being girlie!