Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

amus

Neither me or OH wear our wedding rings.

Me because mines quite a thick band and I end up with dry red skin underneath, and him becuase he just doent like wearing jewellery.

My Dads never worn one either though so its not unusual for me.

elle_gee

My partner and I aren't married (don't ever intend to be) but we do have matching "wedding" rings worn on our left ring fingers; they're engraved inside with our son's name and date of birth. I wear mine 24/7 but he only wears his when he's not at work and takes it off before bed. He's an industrial fireman and not allowed to wear jewellery at work (and could be called out in the night, hence not sleeping with it on).

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest if we did get married and my partner/then husband didn't wear his ring as I understand why not.

I grew up knowing my dad didn't have a wedding ring because of the manual job he did (berthing master, tying up huge ships with ropes), but when he moved into a management/office job he got a ring at the same time as my mum got an eternity ring, after almost 20 years of marriage. Now married 28 years and he wears it 24/7.

freyasmum

I rather like the outward symbolism of the rings but if my (pretend :rotfl:) husband decided not to wear one, then it's obviously his choice - as has been said, it wouldn't make us any less married than if he did. But I would quite like it.

Person_one wrote: »

As a single woman its actually pretty handy to have that instant signal that somebody's unavailable!

I sometimes wear a ring if I'm going out just for that very reason.

onlyroz

I don't wear one, I don't own one and I wouldn't have married somebody who tried to make me wear one. Hubby would have liked to get me one but I told him no and he let it go.

Torry_Quine

One thing that surprises me is those who say they or their spouse don't wear any jewellery so that's why they don't wear a wedding ring. Although strictly speaking it is jewellery I don't think of it like that. Probably as it's permanently there and I think of jewellery as something that changes or don't wear at all.

pinkclouds

megc wrote: »

he does a lot of gardening and DIY says they can be dangerous too if they get caught on something etc

Have you heard of degloving? Not sure how hazardous his DIY is but engineers, seamen, etc do not wear jewellery onsite/onboard - if you get a ring caught on your finger, you can potentially risk degloving it.

I would buy his wedding ring anyway, as a keepsake/memento, but not wear it. We don't wear our wedding rings and neither do my parents. I rarely wear any rings - I prefer bracelets or, sometimes, necklaces.

Wedding rings are a conveniently small keepsake, can be passed down (or sideways) to relatives, can sometimes be worn to deter propositions (not always a successful ploy), potentially improve arthritis (if you have it) in the ring finger and, of course, are a nice part of the actual wedding day.

no-oneknowsme

lilac-straw wrote: »

I don't wear a wedding ring and I'm female.

Same here. I have been married for many years and very rarely wear my rings. For some reason I just hate the feeling of a ring on my finger

merlot123

lilac-straw wrote: »

I don't wear a wedding ring and I'm female.

I've been married for 16 years and more often than not do not wear my wedding/engagement rings, I simply do not like wearing them, I find them a nuisance when gardening/washing up etc.

It doesn't mean I don't love my husband nor does it mean I am not committed to him 100%.

My husband doesn't have nor ever wanted a wedding ring.

CKhalvashi

Neither myself, nor OH wear anything on our hands at work; we're messing round with guitars and recording studio/video equipment all day. It's just not practical.

I always wear one when not working, however we have a friend do our gardening for us (owns a landscaping company) in exchange for looking after his kids for 2 nights a week, so I don't entirely know on that one.

CK

Tygermoth

My OH wears his ring all the time.

I rarely wear mine, special occasions only. I don’t like the restrictive/alien feel on my finger so tend to fiddle with it then after a while absentmindedly take off (normally putting it 'somewhere safe'....and losing it)

I am not a wearer of jewellery at all, I cannot abide a watch or even earrings.

The OH understands and knows I am committed so it bothers him not one iota.