Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

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My finger got too fat for my wedding ring about 25 years ago. It and my husband's both live in my jewellery box. Mind you, both of us find rings annoying.

Mrs_Ryan

OH and I arent married but I used to wear a ring on my wedding finger to symbolise our commitment. However when him and I had an almighty row once I took it off and put it on my right ring finger instead, where it has remained. I actually think it looks better there as I am left handed and wear my watch on my right wrist, and it goes nice with the watch, however I switch it to my left hand if I'm going out to stop unwanted attention He does ask occasionally about why I dont wear my ring on my wedding finger anymore but ever since we had a massive argument about me taking the last one off (I used to have another one, a gold one, that got damaged at work and started to crush my finger so it actually started swelling over the top of it :eek: and he wouldnt let me take it off but it got to the point where I had to and had to leave it off to let my finger recover) he knows not to push the point - I said to him well you refuse to commit to me so why should I have to show I'm committed to you?

My Dad didnt have a wedding ring until recently, but my brother loves his bling and he has a succession of blingy ones, and my BIL to be has what I assume to be an engagement ring so its not uncommon in my family, but OH refuses to marry me so I guess I'll never know if he would have one or not

emweaver

Threebabes wrote: »

My hubby has a ring, he wore it for a few years and now it stuck in a drawer. He said it catches on stuff. I dont mind either way. I wear mine out the house but take it off when Im home.

I take mine off when home too as I get eczema under it so only wear it when go out.

emweaver

Gloomendoom wrote: »

You are guaranteed to have an accident if you wear a ring. However, the chances of having a nasty accident increase significantly.

That doesn't make sense, I assume its a typo. As I said you can put a plaster over it to stop it catching things .

Gloomendoom

emweaver wrote: »

That doesn't make sense, I assume its a typo. As I said you can put a plaster over it to stop it catching things .

You are right, it was a typo. I've corrected it.

Incidentally, here is a link to a French study on ring accidents.

RECOMMENDATION ON THE RISK OF WEARING RINGS AND WEDDING BANDS

Interestingly, it appears that most such accident happen in the home and not at work.

beautybutterfly

We've just bought our rings, we only paid £65 for my OH's because I know for a fact he won't wear it, its just not practical for him, he'll end up losing it or damaging it so no point spending loads, its just for show on the day

Lotus-eater

beautybutterfly wrote: »

We've just bought our rings, we only paid £65 for my OH's because I know for a fact he won't wear it, its just not practical for him, he'll end up losing it or damaging it so no point spending loads, its just for show on the day

I got married last Sept. Wore my ring for a couple of weeks, then off and on for a bit, lost it about 4 months ago.
I didn't pay loads for it and I assume it's around the house somewhere.

Oh and for the thread, my OH doesn't care if I wear it or not, but I think she would like it if I wore it on a night out together. Once I find it of course

She wears hers all the time and I like that little bit of male dominance but I wouldn't be too fussed if she felt not bothered about wearing it.

Bufger

My dad has never wore his and it doesnt bother my mum. He's in a job where you shouldnt have any jewelry as you risk takingb off your fingers etc if it gets caught.

My wife hasnt had hers on for 6 months because her hands have swelled up in pregnancy. Now shes had our son it no longer fits but im ok with her not wearing it.

As long as they dont lose it or throw it away the symbology is still there.

If they were taking it off just before a night out that'd be different..

C_Mababejive

I dont like wearing rings,necklaces,ear rings or other male jewelry either save for a watch.

andygb

I stopped wearing a wedding ring, after a few months (twenty years ago), because I did a lot of sports, and I nearly lost it a couple of times, and caught it in netting on one occasion. My OH used to grumble a bit, but then I pointed out all the married couples we had known, the ones where the bloke had been a ring wearer, and then run off with another women.
I have always been faithful, and always bring my wife into the conversation if I am talking with other women (at work or socially).
A ring is just a symbol, it does not act as some kind of insurance policy or guarentee of someone's behaviour.