Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

Birdie85

When I got married my DH wasn't fussed about wearing a ring. He doesn't wear jewellery other than a watch and didn't know how he'd feel about wearing a ring as he knew he'd play with it all the time. We still got a nice ring for the cermemony and agreed that he'd try to wear it whenever he wore his watch (i.e. not playing sport, doing DIY or at work!) and that worked for him. He's actually become very attached to it now and only takes it off for bed.

I wasn't that bothered either way really, but it is nice to see that he proudly wears his wedding ring now.

margaretclare

mountainofdebt wrote: »

well no-one has mentioned that Prince William doesn't have a wedding ring and I doubt very much he feels less married than someone who has one.

He got married in Westminster Abbey so one would assume he was married according to the 17th century prayer book 'The Solemnisation of Matrimony' service, which has no provision for exchange of rings. The bride's ring is blessed 'he who gives it and she who wears it' and the groom puts it on her finger with the words 'With this ring I thee wed...'

Those who watched the whole of the royal wedding on TV may be able to verify that this was indeed the case.

I agree with TorryQuine - a wedding ring is not 'jewellery' i.e. it's not decorative, it means something different from just 'bling'.

I've been married twice, the first time under the old prayer book as quoted above, the second time by the modern service in the Methodist Church which uses today's language and has provision for exchange of rings from one to the other. DH never takes his ring off, and in hospital, they were sensitive about it and taped it, not asked for it to be taken off.

Slinky

My Dad didn't wear a wedding ring, he had one which snapped when he caught it on machinery at work and was never worn again.

My mother wore her ring from the day she was married and never took it off until she left my Dad. She also had two engagement rings because she couldn't make up her mind which one she liked so Dad bought her both (typical Dad). She lost one of them fairly early on. Strangely when I was looking through paperwork after Dad died, I found the receipt for those engagement rings. Thirteen pounds and thirteen shillings. If ever there was an omen, that was it.

jtr2803

I'm getting married next year and have spoken with my fiance about it a few times. He is a manual worker and deals with some fairly nasty chemicals on a daily basis and is concerned more about it getting ruined than he is about injury!

We have agreed that he will not wear a ring during work but will still have a ring that he will wear at all other times. I didn't think he would want to wear one as he has never worn anything other than an occasional watch but he says he does want to and although I hadn't said anything, I would have liked him to wear one.

mildred1978

jtr2803 wrote: »

I'm getting married next year and have spoken with my fiance about it a few times. He is a manual worker and deals with some fairly nasty chemicals on a daily basis and is concerned more about it getting ruined than he is about injury!

We have agreed that he will not wear a ring during work but will still have a ring that he will wear at all other times. I didn't think he would want to wear one as he has never worn anything other than an occasional watch but he says he does want to and although I hadn't said anything, I would have liked him to wear one.

Sounds like thumb screws were tightened the way that is worded, lol.

mummyroysof3

my husband had a ring he wore all the time when we got married and then stopped wearing it cos it gottoo tight, its still in a drawer somewhere.

i have never taken my engagement or wedding rings off except when i lost a stone out my engagemant ring. i wanted it mending but as it was only a cheap one it was going to cos more to mend than it cos in first place so i had a new one instead. i hated that for a week i only had one ring on while my new one was resized. i have considered getting hubbys made smaller so i can wear it lol

emweaver

If it bothers you that much you need to tell him.

My DH works with machinery and does a lot of diy and has never caught it in 9 years and wears it every day. If he is that worried he can always take it off before doing gardening etc or even put a plaster over it.

Gloomendoom

emweaver wrote: »

If it bothers you that much you need to tell him.

My DH works with machinery and does a lot of diy and has never caught it in 9 years and wears it every day. If he is that worried he can always take it off before doing gardening etc or even put a plaster over it.

You are not guaranteed to have an accident if you wear a ring. However, the chances of having a nasty accident increase significantly.

Elsewhere

My finger got too fat for my wedding ring about 25 years ago. It and my husband's both live in my jewellery box. Mind you, both of us find rings annoying.

Mrs_Ryan

OH and I arent married but I used to wear a ring on my wedding finger to symbolise our commitment. However when him and I had an almighty row once I took it off and put it on my right ring finger instead, where it has remained. I actually think it looks better there as I am left handed and wear my watch on my right wrist, and it goes nice with the watch, however I switch it to my left hand if I'm going out to stop unwanted attention He does ask occasionally about why I dont wear my ring on my wedding finger anymore but ever since we had a massive argument about me taking the last one off (I used to have another one, a gold one, that got damaged at work and started to crush my finger so it actually started swelling over the top of it :eek: and he wouldnt let me take it off but it got to the point where I had to and had to leave it off to let my finger recover) he knows not to push the point - I said to him well you refuse to commit to me so why should I have to show I'm committed to you?

My Dad didnt have a wedding ring until recently, but my brother loves his bling and he has a succession of blingy ones, and my BIL to be has what I assume to be an engagement ring so its not uncommon in my family, but OH refuses to marry me so I guess I'll never know if he would have one or not