Men not wearing a wedding ring? Thoughts please

ikkle87

I don't wear my engagement ring and I wouldn't wear a wedding ring either so wouldn't bother me if OH didn't wear one either.

chucknorris

I can't stand wearing the damn thing (so I don't) it feels so uncomfortable plus I don't wear any jewellery at all (unless you count my (functional) watch).

Stephb1986_2

pacific4130 wrote: »

I don't plan to wear my wedding ring much when I'm married. I don't particularly like wearing jewellery and also given my hobbies I feel it's dangerous to wear a ring.

Luckily my partner is a doctor, and understands why I think they're unsafe. She's seen plenty of de-gloving accidents in her time.

If you're curious (and not squeamish) google: 'ring de gloving'. You'll see exactly what I wish to avoid! I witnessed a colleague narrowly escape such an injury and that was warning enough!

It's your fault I'm going to have nightmares tonight! I've just threw up all over myself too _pale__pale_ I'm curious but squeamish I wish I hadn't looked now.

I've just txt my h2b and said that if he doesn't want a wedding ring that's fine after what I've just seen.

Steph xx

ruby-roo_2

Person_one wrote: »

I don't think the OP should be coming in for quite so much flak, its a pretty understandable reaction.

Nobody has given the OP any flak. Posters responding to this thread have just given their feelings and opinions.

Wearing a ring is a very individual choice and no reflection on how committed either party is to the marriage.

minerva_windsong

It genuinely wouldn't bother me if OH said he didn't want to wear a wedding ring, but in fact he actually brought up that he did want to wear one within a few hours of us getting engaged. Then again he has an office job and doesn't have any hobbies that I can think of as being particularly dangerous to wear a wedding ring - although admittedly that's no guarantee it wouldn't get caught on something - and he does already wear some jewellery (a chain his brother bought him before he went to Afghanistan). If he had said however that he absolutely didn't want to wear one I wouldn't mind though; it's his decision and as others have said it wouldn't make us any less married.

mountainofdebt

well no-one has mentioned that Prince William doesn't have a wedding ring and I doubt very much he feels less married than someone who has one.

make_me_wise

My husband doesn't wear a wedding ring. It doesn't bother me at all. Makes no difference to how he feels about me or how committed he is to our marriage.

I didn't take his name which he respected.

If either of you feels uneasy about the others decision OP then talk it through. Reach a compromise you are both happy with. That is what marriage is all about after all.

michelle2008

To be honest I don't like jewellery on men.

It would not bother me in the slightest if my other half dadnr wear a wedding ring. As others have said its just a symbol.

amus

Neither me or OH wear our wedding rings.

Me because mines quite a thick band and I end up with dry red skin underneath, and him becuase he just doent like wearing jewellery.

My Dads never worn one either though so its not unusual for me.

elle_gee

My partner and I aren't married (don't ever intend to be) but we do have matching "wedding" rings worn on our left ring fingers; they're engraved inside with our son's name and date of birth. I wear mine 24/7 but he only wears his when he's not at work and takes it off before bed. He's an industrial fireman and not allowed to wear jewellery at work (and could be called out in the night, hence not sleeping with it on).

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest if we did get married and my partner/then husband didn't wear his ring as I understand why not.

I grew up knowing my dad didn't have a wedding ring because of the manual job he did (berthing master, tying up huge ships with ropes), but when he moved into a management/office job he got a ring at the same time as my mum got an eternity ring, after almost 20 years of marriage. Now married 28 years and he wears it 24/7.