OH's best mate looking at photos of me on PC!!

January20

AppleMatt wrote: »

Yeah, afraid Windows Password is useless and can be bypassed very, very easily and quickly.

Encryption with a strong password using something like Truecrypt is a big step up.

/ IT Guy :money:

Yes, I know that now I don't want people reading this thread to think that passwording their computer will solve all problems.

Your advice is great - if you know about computers. If you don't, it might well have been written in Greek :rotfl: (Please don't be offended)

Gloomendoom

bedpotato wrote: »

I haven't read the whole thread so don't know if this has been suggested yet, but why not use encryption? You mentioned "password protecting" your files, but said you can't do that - why not go one step better and encrypt them?

I would never leave personal pics on an unencypted computer, even if it was turned off, because anyone who knows how to get into a Hard Drive could steal the laptop and view your pics without even having to log in. Download TrueCrypt (or similar programme). It's free, simple to use, and prevents anyone snooping on your personal stuff. You can create a virtual hard drive or partition that no one but yourself will be able to access. However, it does not solve your immediate problem - this pervy guy has already seen those pictures of you.

For all you know, he might have copied them or emailed them to himself. It's too late this time around - but it needn't be too late next time. Encrypt your laptop - or, if you don't want to encrypt, set up a password on your main user account and have a "Guest" account for people like your OH's friend. That way, he won't be able to see your stuff.

Personally, if it were me, I wouldn't have him back in the house!

That seem like an awful lot of fuss for a few pictures.

sabretoothtigger

Sounds like it'd make a good comedy sketch. Its definitely rude but not sure you should feel threatened, the guy obviously has little conscience on these things and just thinks its ok to check out a women in a bikini.
You can password protect from the bios, that should be enough

pinkclouds

meritaten wrote: »

why would you want to take such measures with a computer in your own home? OP obviously trusts her OH and he trusts her! just like in my house we dont 'hide' things. or password protect them.

Off-topic *but* I hope no one is sitting there in the root admin account because they "must share and don't want to use passwords".

Back to topic... I still think it's something out of nothing. If he was under the impression he was allowed to "make himself at home" and use the computer then he's not really done anything wrong - except for being rather nosy. Set up a "guest" account so that any visitors know what they are/aren't allowed to access, next time. Alternatively, it needs to be made explicitly obvious that visitors are not permitted to touch the computer. (Do you have just one? And why don't your visitors bring their laptops with them?)

Grumpygit

At least it was only bikini shots - we have much worse on our pc (nothing illegal I must add!) which is unfortunate as our pc blew itself up the other week and we can't take it to be fixed because of our "special" pictures on the hard drive lol

I think that the fact that he accessed personal files on my pc would make me more angry - it's not necessarily the content but the act itself.

Going on the pc for the internet is one thing if they asked, but personal files should be respected.

What has your OH said about this or haven't you told him yet?

KateLiana27

Yes, it's kind of creepy, but I can't help but feel a bit sorry for the guy. It's almost like you set out to trap him - you knew he'd done it before but let him back into your home without saying anything to him, left the computer accessible, then deliberately checked to see what pictures he'd looked at. I'm kind of getting a mixed message here? I wonder if, hidden amongst the righteous indignation, there's a tiny part of you that's flattered that a guy wants to look at pictures of you barely clothed...

In your position, I'd have politely asked him not to use your computer after the first time, and all current drama would have been avoided.

meritaten

er, when I say we dont use passwords I meant beyond the usual ones to access Windows or go online. and as has been pointed out - to bypass those is ridiculously easy.

mrs_sparrow

I would be annoyed if someone was rifling through my stuff when I was not here so you are not alone butterfly.

Why is it no-one has any manners or respect for others peoples things these days? It sounds like it is almost expected these days! No!! If I leave an album or photos on the table then yes, please have a look that is what they are there for and I have left them in a public area, if something is put away in a cupboard or is on a computer then you can only have a look when invited.

People should not have to encrypt their computers in their own homes? What next, he nicks something and you say it's her fault for letting him in!!

People should not be rifling through other peoples things - friends or not - unless invited to do so. I've had long term friends and I would not dream of going to their houses and rifling through their stuff. That is just down right rude and bad mannered.

shays_mum

Not read it all, but am sure ppl have already suggested why not just password protect your computer?, otherwise set up a guest account for non family users? - that way no one can see anything inappropriate.

Am sure you looked really nice as well, that he could not resist another peek!!.

Hope it all goes well x

atrixblue.-MFR-.

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Ok, I'm going to go against the grain here. I don't think it's creepy at all - if you look good in a bikini men are going to appreciate the eye-candy, whether that's taking a second look on the beach, or taking a second look when flicking through your general holiday photos.

I honestly think that the best way forward is to make a joke out of it and say something outright to the guy - perhaps a "Hey, there's my bikini shots left open on the computer, were you oggling me JoeBloggs? Bad boy!" That's all it's going to take to make him blush, get incredibly embarrassed and not do it again.

what if this guy has a secret crush and OP says this it will only reinforce his cruch and think that she is flirting, women are not eye-candy or a sexual object to be gawped at!

a personal pc is just that personal, he had no right in looking through it.

its not like the pic are on fbook and he looked at them through his profile, he deliberatly went into the pc's own files to search them? and only imagination could verify what for!.

not only to mention that if OP does say what you advise, her husband could take offence and could put idea's in his own head about the pair. he looks thorugh pc pics of her in her swim wear and she says naught boy in a joking manor if my OH did this i'd probably think there was something going on.