How many children?....

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

skystar wrote: »

Not a week goes past but someone asks me when I am going to have a baby and that I have been married too long to be childless (not even 3 years)!

I try to explain that I am not very maternal and have little desire to have a child but the same people ask me over and over again :mad:

My sister was the same after she got married. She had her first child after being married 6 years and straight away was being questioned when she was having the next as you can't have an only child (apparantly)

Married for nearly 5 years before we had our little girl (only child)

I think we totally convinced most who knew us that we'd NEVER HAVE ANY (they assumed wrong) as it is OF COURSE expected of you to have them in the 1st year certainly NO LATER than the first 3 years of married life.

OTHER WISE YOU'RE BRANDED A CHILD HATER :rolleyes:

Whatever happened to enjoying life together just the two of you before expanding your family! NOT that I'm suggesting life ends when you do have them... BUT it does if you stop making an effort to live life to the full, don't use your children as an excuse for everything

Then comes all the questions and advice on when to have the NEXT :mad: and what kind of age gap is acceptable, let me try to FORGET the PAIN of this one 1st then and only then MAYBE we'll have one more,
NO PROMISES... She's 5 in August...!

An only child will automatically become a spoilt brat and be very LONELY is what I get constantly told.

Imagine being the second born, brought into the world to keep your older sibling from being alone ...! Maybe as an added bonus but not enough of a reason to have another purely on this basis. :rotfl:

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

ailuro2 wrote: »

Just then one, I would have loved another but it never happened, and we were very happy with the one we got first time anyways-I would have been a lot sadder if I was given a little monster instead of a wee angel:A I count my blessings

That's my fear: that because we feel that we've been blessed with a little :A our second will be a complete nightmare as the second born USUALLY are as we're always being told and true in my sisters case LOL

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

skystar wrote: »

Not a week goes past but someone asks me when I am going to have a baby and that I have been married too long to be childless (not even 3 years)!

I try to explain that I am not very maternal and have little desire to have a child but the same people ask me over and over again :mad:

My sister was the same after she got married. She had her first child after being married 6 years and straight away was being questioned when she was having the next as you can't have an only child (apparantly)

Married for nearly 5 years before we had our little girl (only child)

I think we totally convinced most who knew us that we'd NEVER HAVE ANY (they assumed wrong) as it is OF COURSE expected of you to have them in the 1st year certainly NO LATER than the first 3 years of married life.

OTHER WISE YOU'RE BRANDED A CHILD HATER :rolleyes:

Whatever happened to enjoying life together just the two of you before expanding your family! NOT that I'm suggesting life ends when you do have them... BUT it does if you stop making an effort to live life to the full, don't use your children as an excuse for everything

Then comes all the questions and advice on when to have the NEXT :mad: and what kind of age gap is acceptable, let me try to FORGET the PAIN of this one 1st then and only then MAYBE we'll have one more,
NO PROMISES... She's 5 in August...!

An only child will automatically become a spoilt brat and be very LONELY is what I get constantly told.

Imagine being the second born, brought into the world to keep your older sibling from being alone ...! Maybe as an added bonus but not enough of a reason to have another purely on this basis. :rotfl:

happychikadee

I have just one, and I can't have any more because of medical reasons. I am more than happy with that to be honest. I see so many people with more than one child and so many times I see an obvious favourite! Surely that's worse than being an only child!! I get told how unfair and lonely it must be for my daughter, until I tell them it would be worse if she had another sibling but no mother!!!!

Poppy9

I have one (age 12) as a result of fertility treatment. Would have loved more but it was not to be. I tell DD we went for quality not quantity.:rolleyes:

Contains_Mild_Peril

Before I got married, I imagined I'd want 2 or 3 kids, but I've decided I'm perfectly happy with just the one. WHen he was young, I was often asked "are you planning on having any more then?", but now he's 13, it's usually "Are you not going to have any more then?" I don't feel guilty about having an only child. The only thing about it that bothers me a little (and I know it's selfish) is I would like to be a grandmother some day, and if I had about 3 kids I'd be reasonably confident at least one would end up with children of their own, but with just one, I wouldn't take it for granted.

funky-footprints

before we were married, i thought you just got pregnant when you wanted, didnt have complications, and we would have 4. Didnt anticpate child birth to be as delighful as it is either !!!
Following a few complications we now have 3 planned children. ds 6. dd, 4 and our lovely baby daughter.

When ever we as a family are out and we see large families i always have a gooeee smile inside.

to previous posters, (above mums of one) I dont have a favourite, my 3 are all so very different, the baby may get certain individual attention, but my other 2 are so proud of thier baby sister. I was very aware of middle child syndrome, or my son being spoiled for being the boy, but it isnt the case here.

Realy think we could have a number 4 here.
xx

renowen

I have the opposite problem

Im 23 and I have 2 children, and its not so much 'are you having any more', as 'are you going to give it a rest now!'

I had my first a month before my 22nd birthday, then my second 18 months later back in Dec.

Im undecided as to have any more - right now im happy as I am and Ive said no more till the youngest is at school - but by then who knows how I will feel

3KIDSNOMONEY

I have three kids and my youngest is 4. Trying for a baby and if it happens I am dreading telling anybody. I can just imagine the reactions - which I know won't be nice.

Tesscha

I don't have any kids, I'm 30 and will have been married for 2 years this April. I have had one particular family member question when I was going to have children or indeed if I wanted to; as I was now '30', well you know what?...I'm enjoying married life and another thing - my hubby has a medical problem which doesn't make it straight forward (and only 2 people closest to me know this) CASE CLOSED.

I would love to have 3 children, so we're hoping to start trying in 2 years - I'm sure that will shock my very nosey cousin; who actually has 3 children the eldest being 11 and she is 28 because she keeps on saying stuff like...."well now it's my time, no more babies for me - I'll leave that to you"...yes, well leave it to me just like I have left you to do your own thing without poking my nose in. SORRY MY RANT IS NOW OVER.