How many children?....

skysky69

Just wondered how many children people have.

We only have one at the moment - I get so many people ask me "when you having another" or how many "more" would I like. Well I am actually quite happy with just the one. Lots of people seem to delight in telling me though that I can't possibly have just one, which really tends to wind me up.

Any views would be appreciated

brazilianwax

skysky69 wrote: »

Just wondered how many children people have.

We only have one at the moment - I get so many people ask me "when you having another" or how many "more" would I like. Well I am actually quite happy with just the one. Lots of people seem to delight in telling me though that I can't possibly have just one, which really tends to wind me up.

Any views would be appreciated

None, and sick to the back teeth of being asked 'when' I'll have kids.

It's 'if', not 'when'!!!!

:mad:

BusyLizzie_3

People will comment, no matter how many children you have. We have three girls - four-year old twins and a little girl who was born three days after my twins' second birthday. You can imagine the comments we get - I ignore them all as it's no one's business but ours!

madison's_mum

i'm the oldest 6 kids & i was always getting "don't your parent have a tv?" & now i've got one i get "whens the next?" but it's a novelty for me to only have 1 child in the house! Plus i can't afford another one until the first is at school!

Crazychik

Like other have said, ignore the comments, you will know in your heart when the time's right to have anymore if YOU want them!

My friend has been married for 11yrs, with no children. I kept asking her the same question, and she blatently told me, because others have children, why is it seen that she should follow suit! It shut me up, made me think - and Ive not asked her since. Luckily we are best friends and she never holds anything against me, but it made me realise, what's good for some in their relationships is not always the same for others.

I have 2 children, 1 of each, thats enough for me!

arnie&caseysma!

I have two children......you can see them both in my avatar! I have told both mum and dad and their respective OHs that they better make the most of the dogs as they will be the only grandchildren they will ever get out of me!!!

My sister has 2 kids and keeps nipping on that 'one day' and I should 'never say never' and all that nonsense. As far as I am concerned I am happy with my life and the responsibilites that come with the dogs, and besides - I don't think I could afford kids.......or am I just being selfish enjoying myself????

skystar

I have no children of my own. My husband has a son who is nearly 11.

Not a week goes past but someone asks me when I am going to have a baby and that I have been married too long to be childless (not even 3 years)!

I try to explain that I am not very maternal and have little desire to have a child but the same people ask me over and over again :mad:

My sister was the same after she got married. She had her first child after being married 6 years and straight away was being questioned when she was having the next as you can't have an only child (apparantly)

alyth

I would find it incredibly rude that someone would ask you whether you intended to have any more children, or indeed any children. I would say that's it's none of their business and move onto another topic. I'm child-free by choice but wouldn't dream of commenting on anyone's lifestyle, amount of children or the way they bring up their children, it's none of my business and nothing to do with me. If someone asks me why I don't have children, I say it's because I didn't want them and move swiftly on. How rude of someone to comment on your life! Do what is right for you, and stuff what anyone else thinks.

alba37

I am an only child and I have 1 son. I would have loved more, (cause I was an only child) but my circumstances changed!! I think it's a totally personal thing, I know it must be so annoying when people comment ... They are just rude!

Becles

I've got a 10 and 8 year old boys, and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. I get really cheesed off when people assume the baby was an accident due to the big age gap.

Really it's because my sons are from my first marriage, then I was a single parent for a while, before marrying last year. This baby was very much planned as although hubby loves my boys as if they are his, he desperately wants one of his own!

Katyag

My DS is 5 and im 22 weeks pregnant. When i took DS home from the hospital i was told, rather firmly, from an old childless aunt, that 'there better be no more for a long time'!!!

We started trying for a second when DS was 18 months old but it just didnt happen, and when we told said aunt about this one she said 'thats ok you have given us plenty time to enjoy J'!!! I was like !!!!!! like thats why we waited so long to get pg!!!

Id rather have people asking when we were having more rather then telling me not too!