Found out by accident 14yr old dd smokes

browneyedbazzi

squidge60 wrote: »

This is the problem she is getting cheap tobacco from abroad .!
So there is also the issue of what shes smokeing.:(

Any idea who's selling it to her? One of the big problems with counterfeit/smuggled tobacco is how much more affordable and accessible it is to young people (a lot of tobacco with foreign labels is actually clever counterfeiting and counterfeit tobacco it is often more dangerous than legal tobacco as there is no quality control and everything and anything will be going into it, including asbestos in some samples I've seen tested)...people who deal in these things don't really care who they're selling to because penalties for underage sales are nothing compared to the penalties for dealing in smuggled or counterfeit goods.

If you know where she's getting it please report the sellers!

squidge60

piglet74 wrote: »

another one for saving her pocket money / wages etc for her, but not stopping her going on the school holiday, i think that is a wee bit too harsh, hth

I was thinking take her wages off her and monitor how she spends it not saving it .:D

kiss_me_now9

Just to say something else, I hope you've thrown in the disappointed card, that used to get me and still does worse than anything!

squidge60

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

Any idea who's selling it to her? One of the big problems with counterfeit/smuggled tobacco is how much more affordable and accessible it is to young people (a lot of tobacco with foreign labels is actually clever counterfeiting and counterfeit tobacco it is often more dangerous than legal tobacco as there is no quality control and everything and anything will be going into it, including asbestos in some samples I've seen tested)...people who deal in these things don't really care who they're selling to because penalties for underage sales are nothing compared to the penalties for dealing in smuggled or counterfeit goods.

If you know where she's getting it please report the sellers!

No idea at the moment where shes getting it from but what you have posted is what bothers me

squidge60

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

Just to say something else, I hope you've thrown in the disappointed card, that used to get me and still does worse than anything!

Yep i did think about that one but not sure if it would have much effect or if i would be labelled a horrible parent

GobbledyGook

squidge60 wrote: »

Maybe i should work on that one a bit more did think about it as typical teen its about hair/makeup etc etc you know how it is.If i point out how much shes going to stink ....:D

In your shoes I'd definately go down that route.

Although it'll probably get me flamed, but also in your shoes I'd tell her she either quits or buys proper cigs. I'd rather one of mine smoked and I could deal with trying to get them to stop long term than risked dodgy tobacco.

At 14 she wants to be an adult. So if she wants to be treated like one then she has to deal with adult consequences. Own washing, no pocket money, proper tobacco if she insists on continuing, smelly coats away from everyone elses and references to the smell every now and again.

piglet74

squidge60 wrote: »

I was thinking take her wages off her and monitor how she spends it not saving it .:D

sorry, get you now

i think i would save it for her, print off the statements and show her how much more money she has for not smoking,

kiss_me_now9

squidge60 wrote: »

Yep i did think about that one but not sure if it would have much effect or if i would be labelled a horrible parent

I have yet to meet anyone who doesn't agree that it's the best tool in the box, ha. As long as it's genuine and only pulled out in extreme situations

squidge60

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

I have yet to meet anyone who doesn't agree that it's the best tool in the box, ha. As long as it's genuine and only pulled out in extreme situations

Never used it before so hopefully it will have big big effect

Idiophreak

Thankfully, I've no children yet...but I can tell you now this would be one of my worst nightmares...

Personally, I'd probably keep the pocket money and bank it....and I think I'd leave the trip as a "stop smoking and you can go" - it's not really a reward for stopping smoking, as she was going to go anyway, but it still makes it seem like there's a good reason to stop...