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watching a friend die

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  • mrcow
    mrcow Posts: 15,170 Forumite
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    Jim, that is so sad to hear. He was lucky to have such a caring neighbour. You're right, you can't choose your family but he sounds like he had some caring friends at least.
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • boo2410
    boo2410 Posts: 316 Forumite
    Really sad news Jim, I haven't posted on here before but kept up to date with the thread. I think you should be comforted by the fact that you were a good friend to him and that he enjoyed your company. If more people were like you the world would be a much better place. Take care, Boo
  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    I have been following this thread and all I can say is, I am so sorry Jim!
    Please put out of your mind that your friend 'fell over' deliberately. I very much doubt an elderly person would do that - no matter what their frame of mind! they wouldnt be sure that it wouldnt involve another lengthy stay in hospital! It must have been an accident!

    I can understand your anger - but, please reign it in when talking to family. be discreet hun - guilty people like to point the finger elsewhere and as I said before.........you also had access to his home. I know you only ever tried to help him but, do be careful about what you say about family members.
  • worried_jim
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    I've calmed down a bit today (a midnight walk helped clear my head). What is done is done and I can't change anything, so I am back to usual cool calm and collected person now.
  • worried_jim
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    My neighbours and I are going to the funeral today. I have received several phone calls from family members thanking me for all the care that I gave my friend over the years and how they are looking forward to thanking me in person today.
    It should be an interesting afternoon.
  • NAR
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    Probably they will be thanking you more out of guilt than anything else. You proved yourself a true friend right to the end and for that you should be proud of yourself.
  • heartbreak_star
    heartbreak_star Posts: 8,287 Forumite
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    I hope the funeral went smoothly, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

    What a good person you are, Jim. True gent!

    HBS x
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    "It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."

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  • Slinky
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    So sorry to hear of your loss Jim, I can only hope that if I get old and lonely I have somebody who cares as much as you did.
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  • NickyBat
    NickyBat Posts: 857 Forumite
    NAR wrote: »
    Probably they will be thanking you more out of guilt than anything else. You proved yourself a true friend right to the end and for that you should be proud of yourself.

    Couldn't have put it better myself.
  • Mayflower10cat
    Mayflower10cat Posts: 1,148 Forumite
    Jim, I'm saddened for you at your friend's passing - you have been a true, decent, loving companion. I do believe 'what goes around, comes around...' and your kindness will come back to you. Those that should have done more/cared more will also reap what they sow.
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