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Dealing with an irrational wife
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And you don't see the irony of your statement?
Perhaps being told 426 times annoys your OH. Have you considered not doing that time and time again.
There seems to be a lot of people on here who think they are always right and that the only way to conduct life is their way and anyone who disagrees is at best plain wrong and at worst childish and stupid.
So, even if it is something important it shouldn't be mentioned numerous times?0 -
The kids get away with it because they are kids. They do get told off at times, but other times I let it lie, because I'm their Mum and that's my job.
Is it surprising that some adults do the things they do when as children Mummy let them get away it.
It can come as no surprise that they continue in their habits and some wife or husband ends up bitterly disappointed in them. After all it's the parents that shape the adult.One by one the penguins are slowly stealing my sanity.0 -
He said she was in clear sight of the table and walking towards it and you can't possibly know if he indicated what he was doing to her as he didn't say.
true, i'm just taking it on face value from what the OP actually put in his post -We were on holiday last year. Having breakfast in the hotel, I saw her coming back from the buffet with some food, so I left the table to go get some for myself. I had my wallet with me but it was too bulky for my pocket so I left it on the table, knowing she was in clear sight of the table and heading that way.
She went quiet on me for the next half hour until I finally got it out of her that she was furious at me for leaving my wallet on the table. She said I was totally irresponsible and was happy to risk us losing all our money and bank cards because of being too impatient to get food. It didn't matter that I said she could see the table and was walking directly towards it.
nowhere in that post does he say he indicated or caught her attention in any way while he had left the table and she was on her way back to it.0 -
I'm trying to figure out how to work this out as a more general scenario.
Person A does X, Person B expresses displeasure.
Person A apologises, promises to try better.
Person A keeps on doing X, Person B gets annoyed.
Person B starts nagging, Person A gets annoyed and eventually switches off.
Sometimes, this scenario continues for years, decades, they have children together, and are stuck in this cycle.
So really, it might have been an idea for Person B to decide if they should have left Person A. And eventually, for Person B to decide that they were sick of the nagging and if they want to put up with it.
Would it be fair to say that for Person A to make an early informed choice, rather than Person B just vaguely promising to do better and not doing it, to be just honest and say "It's not that important to me. I will forget, I won't be changed by you, ever. Alright?"
And then Person B can choose, properly.
Because Person A says "I'll do better next time", Person B then takes their word, and is upset when they're let down again.0 -
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O.P. If you want to be spoken to like a child for the rest of your adult life then good luck. Grow a pair and tell her to treat you like an adult.Pants0
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balletshoes wrote: »I agree, but from Andy's earlier post describing the wallet on the table incident, his wife wasn't at the table when he left it (no-one was), so she didn't know he'd left his wallet on the table to be looked after until she got back to the table.We were on holiday last year. Having breakfast in the hotel, I saw her coming back from the buffet with some food, so I left the table to go get some for myself. I had my wallet with me but it was too bulky for my pocket so I left it on the table, knowing she was in clear sight of the table and heading that way.
She went quiet on me for the next half hour until I finally got it out of her that she was furious at me for leaving my wallet on the table. She said I was totally irresponsible and was happy to risk us losing all our money and bank cards because of being too impatient to get food. It didn't matter that I said she could see the table and was walking directly towards it. She made me promise never to do anything irresponsible again in my life and that I needed to show her more respect.
I'd assume she would see anyone lifting it off the table really. And the response "made me promise never to do anything irresponsible again in my life and that I needed to show her more respect" !!!!
And tbh, my wife would have come back with two plates, or I would have if I'd gone first.0
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