Dealing with an irrational wife

coolcait

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Her name isn't Christine Grey per chance is it,lol?

Seriously though (and I haven't read the whole thread) but OH managed to get into the house by putting his hand in through the small window of the bathroom and open the large window which he then climbed in through

Now that scared me - if a ok-ish fit man of 40 could do that then what could a teenager do ?

The design of the windows is a key factor in assessing whether or not it is safe to leave one open.

We used to live in a house where the windows were like yours - a hopper window at the top, and a casement window underneath. I wouldn't have left the hopper window open, due to the risk you've described,

My mum's bedroom has hopper windows at the top, with a pane of glass underneath, and that's it. Only the hopper can open.

It offers more security against burglars, but it does mean that it has been important to discuss escape routes with her in case of fire (casement window in the next bedroom), and persuade her that if a window has to get broken to get her out, that's OK!

There are all sorts of risks around...

Lexxi

My mum had to phone her neighbour the other day as she had left the back bedroom open and the back isn't over looked. The main problem with the window being opened was that she had decided to throw out some ladders that were 20+ years old the night before and had propped them against the back wall until she decided where she was throwing them out to.
The dog wasn't planning on letting the neighbour in to move the ladders though, maybe you should get a guard dog OP!

On a serious note, aren't you glad you've got nearly 13 pages of berating fot 2 text messages you wanted an opinion on?!

Pollycat

RadoJo wrote: »

Just out of interest, are any of the people on this thread who have referred to 'OCD' actually talking about someone with a medical diagnosis?

I guess that's a question for the OP as he said "she is very OCD".
He should know if she has been diagnosed as having OCD.

andymc29 wrote: »

She is very OCD and will always check all her car doors after hearing the central locking when using her keyfob. She will also double check the front door is locked even after using the key to lock the deadbolt. she complains about anything out of place in the house, and she'll insist on the kitchen door being closed when we leave the house so people can't look in the kitchen window through to the corridor.

I don't know if that was the first reference to OCD, I think the post below was the first time OCD was mentioned but as a possible reason for the OP's wife's behaviour, rather than a diagnosis:

19lottie82 wrote: »

From what you have told us, about this mentality being applied in numerous situations, I am guessing that your wife may be suffering from OCD or something similar, where scenarios like this cause her great stress and cause these outbursts. This isn't normal and perhaps councelling might help?

Taadaa

WAY too many posts to read every one, but I feel really sorry for andy in all of this.

Yes, she could probably be annoyed you left the window open, but her reaction is completely out of proportion.

She seems to have an irrational fear of things being stolen from her, and she equates you not having the same fear as not having respect for her. If you think she does have a medical problem, then you need to encourage her to seek help.

Otherwise your relationship is going to go down the pan, along with your self confidence. The phrase 'hen pecked' springs to mind!

paddy's_mum

mrs_sparrow wrote: »

screaming like a nutter because someone has run the car out of fuel or left a window open or forgotten a birthday. You sounds like an absolute nutty fruitcake!! Those are minor things in every day life, why are you manic over these trivial things??

Whoa! Hold your horses, Mrs Sparrow.

Where is there one iota of evidence to support your derogatory assertions? So far as I can see, neither I nor anyone else said anything whatever to make you believe this to be the case. Of course I can get mad at my husband but you've laid stuff at my door which is very far from the truth.

It seems that somebody got their wires crossed when they wrote this. Perhaps a vivid imagination is coming into play

I fully respect your right to hold a vastly different opinion to my own but I thought I had made it clear that I wasn't referring to the day-to-day, petty irritations of married life such as those you refer to.

Anybody married to a Mr Pastry type will understand that someone who is careless/absent-minded/irresponsible, and doesn't seem to even want to make any effort to improve the situation, very quickly passes over the line that takes them into areas that any divorce court would consider unreasonable conduct.

The strongest love can be destroyed by having constantly to save a blithering insert your choice of word here from their own ineptitude. When a spouse's actions will drag you down with him, courtesy, tolerance and patience quickly run out. Even an angel :A can find their halo slipping.

A perpetual child is wearing in the extreme and I bet that all those "registered keepers :rotfl: " of airheads would give their eye teeth to be dealing only with those rub-along-together little glitches called "trivial things".

Knowing me as well as I do, I'm pretty sure that there's no maniac wandering around here screaming like a nutter!