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Saturnalia

I just want to find three things: forgiveness, peace, and home.

londonsurrey

Saturnalia wrote: »

I just want to find three things: forgiveness, peace, and home.

In that case, a male is not strictly necessary?

Saturnalia

londonsurrey wrote: »

In that case, a male is not strictly necessary?

I guess what I mean by home is finding that person I'm meant to be with and building the kind of life we want to live, that feeling of coming home, rather than a physical place.

Saturnalia

Sigh, I hate having all these ups and downs. Just because I haven't had a real relationship in all these years doesn't mean it can never happen, just that it hasn't happened yet in the way & on the timescale I wanted it to, with the man I wanted it to - it still could come at some point and tomorrow might be the day, who knows?

It'll be a useful lesson if it ever does come right for me to never be smug, always be grateful and never to take anything for granted. Something a lot of people do forget then wonder why it all falls apart.

And at least now I've had so much useful advice on this thread and am feeling overall happier with the new me. It's been playing on my mind for a while that I don't seem to get taken seriously and my grown-up new look is helping me gain confidence, as is me learning more body-language skills (no wonder blokey didn't realise I liked him, I was getting it so wrong!)

And it has set my mind at rest to confirm what you all suspected, that he didn't know and wasn't trying to be nasty telling me about new girl in public, it wouldn't have crossed his mind that it'd matter to me.

Crying and feeling carp won't work. Being positive and knowing I'm being my best me will, at some point, and will lead to more fun on the journey.