MSE Pregnancy Club 25

ikkle87

Rups hun you need to chill out, it seems like you get annoyed very easy lately maybe if you feel something getting on your nerves or winding you up walk away, pretend you need the toilet or something and go have a minute to yourself.

What is it that he's not doing in the house? DIY things or general chores?

Why don't you try and find something local to you that you can go do as a hobby and a bit of a night out? Go for that swim, join a craft group, or take a small course or something. Do something for you and leave your OH and his brother to it. Or arrange to meet friends.

Rups32

yes you are right honey. i can be a pain and the last thing he prob needs is me in a bad mood when he comes back home..i feel so bad about it now. i am not feeling well so more frustrated. i guess he is just like that and doesnt show much affection or ask me ifi am ok etc. i htink i should just accept it and not try and change it. you are right i need to get out more, but too tired. have to make an effort with that swim like you suggested. i have arranged dinner with my 2 girlfriends tomorrow and he is out (surprise there). lol. so it will be nice. you are right i need to do stuff for me but need the energy too. sigh.. i guess also, if i have some time in the house to myself i would enjoy it. actually i really enjoyed working from home today and was all alone.:)

i need to calm down you are right. might chck out a local yoga class too as right now i am mega stressed and not goof for any of us. was embarassing though us arguing infront of his brther. eek! thanks ikkle. i need some sense knocked into me at time.s

ikkle87

I'm just thinking about your sanity chick, it's hard when you feel like your just a walking vessel for the baby and people stop caring about you as an individual that's why I said try find something you enjoy doing and do something that is just for you. Sod the boys. If they want feeding let them cook their own tea. My OH normally tends to wait for me to cook tea but he knows that if I say I'm not up to it I'm not up to it and while he might only be able to manage beans or toast or similar he will do it.

Rups32

at least he does that though. these two wait. to be fair, dh is very good in the kitchen and doing stuff. think this week, he has been out and doing his kung fu so he has ignored it. he is very neanderthal (sp??) about things at times esp when it comes to giving sympathy. he just doesnt do it, nor is he a romantic. i just never knew that fully and thought he would show somehting. he does stuff inhis own way though but i need to see it more emotionally as i am more emotional clearly.

i do feel like that he did his 5 mins work of making the baby and then that is it. his dad is like that too. his mum was saying (she is like him though in terms of emotions) that she gave birth without him being there. all he did was turn up after work. at least dh has come with me for scans and i told him now he doesnt have to for every gp/mw appointment. got to see the positives. hey?

stinking cold is also making me feel crap. better go and make my honey lemon as no one else will lol.

morocha

Big hugs Rups, Think about you and do things you enjoy doing, that will put you in a good mood. xx


Have my theoric test tomorrow and i am not doing any practise anymore i have had enough !:o Also i get to see my baby at my 20 wk scan !! I will know if I am having a boy ( i think it is a boy, but i could be wrong...)
I am so nerveous, i dont think i will sleep tonight, this test is stressing me out big time.

Rups32

good luck morocha. dont stress about the test or scan (hope it is the test more than the scan). you will be fine and what is the worst that can happen? you can do it again. good luck tomorrow hon. let us know how you do. xxx

i will def think of what i want to do but need to get over the cold as now i just want to sleep. i got woken up earlier because he said i wont sleep later and will disturb him. tsk tsk. men hey? my breathing def will be bad tonight so he has to deal with it.
xx

ikkle87

Rups32 wrote: »

at least he does that though.

he does it cos he has to, he knows I'm not willing to be like his mum was and do everything, he's tried the not doing chores, not putting his washing in basket etc and after a week he had no clothes and took the hint and now does his bit to help, he also has to cos of my health as i can't always walk around or do things. I still do the majority though.


You will get a happy medium eventually hun, the baby might be the making of him x

Rups32

hmm now that is an idea. maybe i can leave the mess as it is as much as it will kill me and then they can clear up after themselves.. hmmm thanks ikkle

he had gone to bed now grumpy !!!!!!. lol. i think i might follow. asked him for a cuddle but unlikely i will get one.. sigh.. i want another man. lol

martafdz

Rups, I have sent you a pm.

I went to dr today, 27cm belly, blood pressure good ( I think she said something like 11-6), but found traces of protein in urine, which might be an infection, so she sent it to analyze, also did some blood tests, heard the heartbeat and that was it. Can't wait to get results and see if everything is normal!

KatyLiz

Morning

Welcome to spudthedog.

Hope you made up with your DH last night Rups and got a good nights sleep. I used to get so irritated with my DH doing nothing and the house being a total mess, but then I just decided to live with it as it was getting me too stressed. Now we live in a mess and the garden looks a tip, but I get on with hubby better as I'm not nagging him all the time. I think the mess is preferable to all the tension, and it's nicer to have a happier house. (That's not to say I don't still get a bit irritated, but I bite my lip now). Maybe you'd feel better if you took the same attitude to it.

Good luck for the test and scan morocha, hope your nerves aren't too bad. Sounds like an exciting day

moneypuddle you've done really well to get that far without stretch marks. With so little time to go hopefully you won't end up with many.

I think everybody gets to that point where the reality of 'I've actually got to have this baby' kicks in. And you probably have more chance of coming early Cake so I'm not surprised you are starting to think about it. Even though I've given birth twice I'm still worried about it, but there's nothing that you can do except hope everything goes as smoothly as possible. After all every labour is different.

I now only have 1 week exactly left to go, eek! It doesn't sound long now I can say that.