MSE Pregnancy Club 25

bikelesschick

dizsie - I know what you mean about having your own friends. Personally, I like having MY friends too, but, from what you're saying it doesn't sound like the friendship is a two-way street there. I may be wrong here though...

sexymouse

marta the length of time you use a cot for very much depends on how quickly your baby is when it's born and how quickly it grows. Cots are a lot smaller than cotbeds (hence the different sized bedding), so they can be grown out of quickly. However, a cotbed can be used until the child is around 7 or 8 years old as you just convert the cot into a bed. This is better in the long term for saving money, which is why we decided to go for this option.

shery

hello ladies, so appreciate this forum where u can voice concern baby talk without feeling guilty that you're talking too much baby stuff . think hubby isgetting fedup actually iam really concern last few days my feet and anckles are swelling up took my bp today and its was the highest ever 137/85 now all i can think of that i might be developping pre - e and my chance of vbac is going out of the window my midewife is on holiday and hv a 36 w apntmnt next tuesday. hubby think iam worrying too much i really hope its just me and nothing serious (

sexymouse

shery that BP is quite high. Can you see another midwife or the GP? I wouldn't wait until next Tuesday. If they catch it now, they may be able to bring it down again for you.

Rups32

shery agree with sexymouse. def see the gp.. hope it goes back down. i think i do too much baby chat as well. am thinking of what else to chat to hubby about lol.

my god not long before can go home. the journey back is just making me want to stay in the office.

shery

think i might go to gp tmrw thank you so much ladies will let u know how i get on xxxx

sexymouse

Fingers crossed that it all goes ok shery. I'll look out for your news.

moneypuddle

dizsiebubba wrote: »

Am I being hormonal or is she being a D**K ???

I vote !!!!!!. I have a friend who is exactly the same. When I first fell pregnant I told her really early on (5 weeks) and she has shown absolutely zero interest since. On the other hand I have arranged her hen do, been bridesmaid for her wedding, arranged a surprise for our mutual friends birthday etc - all since being pregnant and have really put myself out for her, and she's shown no return whatsoever.

When I first got pregnant I was convinced she would be godmother (as she is/was my best friend) but it would seem really hypocritical now to ask her as she's so uninterested. I can't work out if its a genuine lack of interest, jealously because she (possibly?) wants a baby herself, or something else. I find it very hard to believe that if your supposed best friends, you don't have two minutes to send a text asking how she's doing. My friend who's away travelling Europe would always know when my next midwife appointment is (from asking, not me forcing it on her!), yet my 'best friend' who lives 100m from my front door can't be arsed.

I thought we had a break through yesterday when she texted me 'we're on a real countdown now'. I replied saying 'yes, only 18 days to go' and she replied with 'no i meant 100 days till xmas'. O...k! :cool:

I don't have loads of friends, so can't just drop people, but wish I could as I do feel she's blighted my pregnancy in some way and its hard to forgive that when its such a special time.

Anyway I digress..... yes I think your friend is being a !!!!!!.

martafdz

I agree with all the posts before, shery, I would go to the GP.

Thanks again for the advice, cotbed sounds like the best investment, I did not know it could be used up to 7-8 years, I thought it would be up to 3 or so, hence why I was asking about a single bed directly. Can you use the cotbed from the start too? Or only cots? Sorry for the ignorance and the continuous questioning, you are the only source of advice I get

Also... on sterilizers, my microwave does not work very well and it is not something we use very often, so we won't be replacing it at the moment. I guess that means I should go for an electric one... but... can I just use the old boiling method? Is it safe?

And finally... has any of you applied for Maternity Allowance? (Not Statutory Maternity Pay). How long does it take since you send the papers to receive the first payment?

I will save the other questions for another day/week...

Rups32

good luck shery.hope all goes well. xxx

moneypuddle, that is not right.. i sometimes think, its a jealousy thing, because with women it happens so much. i mean a baby for every woman will happen when the time is right, but why cant you be happy for your friends? i agree that when one doesnt have many friends, you cant drop them, but i am against that because i wouldrather have one or two true friends than these types who are so much effort. i have had to drop them esp during my wedding, i saw some true colours of friends i thought were friends. that did it for me. one or two who i thought will give a secone chance still havent texted to ask how it is going? sorry i have started..

well i am off now. am exhausted. have to make dinner for me and the brother in law. sigh.. xx