MSE Pregnancy Club 25

dizsiebubba

Sa-ra-ra-ra wrote: »

Dizsie, the NHS ones cover those - and Croydon have LOADS running, I've just booked onto mine. I don't think you have to be under Croydon Uni Hosp to do their course - do you want details of the dates and times and stuff? They hold classes at the hospital, and ones at the surestart centre in Woodlands.

I am doing the NHS ones but OH can't make them... the private ones tend to be evening so he can make them xx

dizsiebubba

savageHK wrote: »

Does look like there aren't any really suitable ones. It's probably worth asking this lot for more details - looks like they might not put theirs up online! http://www.nct.org.uk/course/16196504

Weird isn't it?

Sa-ra-ra-ra

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I am doing the NHS ones but OH can't make them... the private ones tend to be evening so he can make them xx

Ah, I see. I should really learn to read things properly...

morocha

hi lovely pregnant ladies !!...

We will have more babies soon, eh ?

I think i am the only odd one here, i don't want my OH in the ward or anywhere close to me during my labour and delivery. This is our second baby, and he was trully awfull the first time around, my MIL was there, and instead of helping me, she was helping him ! lol.. he hates hospitals... And they all laugh now, cos all what i wanted to do, was to be in oneside of the room, bouncing in my ball, very quite, no talking... just coping on my own way. I didnt even want back massages...
DH was relieved when i told him i dont want him there, and MIL said she would be delighted to be there if i want... i mean, shes like my second mum, a very calm person, just to get her to get me the nurse, or some drink/magazines... i think i will have her there, although i wouldnt mind to be on my own.

emweaver

Rups32 wrote: »

oh no emweaver. dont panic. is there someone nearby who can help out if that happens?

Nobody with a car

emweaver

KatyLiz wrote: »

I've got the same worries emweaver, although I still have over 5 weeks before I'm due. I figure if things were to progress very quickly I would ask one of the neighbours to have the kids and call an ambulance for myself. I'd hate to do that and would be terrified of having baby without DH, but if I had no choice I'd have to. Maybe you could do the same? Chances are though that baby will come when your OH is home and everything will be fine, so don't stress too much

Rups you don't seem as panicky since your holiday. In fact you seem a lot calmer than me now lol! It's nice that you're enjoying your pregnancy a bit more now. I take it you didn't ever peek inside that envelope?

My neighbours all work during the day but if needs be I would call an ambulance and bundle the kids in with me lol

zcrat41

Ditzie - There didn't seem to be any near me (and I live in the middle of nowhere!) so I phoned them up and the chap was so helpful. Basically, he found me a course that was going to be running but hadn't been advertised yet and it was fairly near me so might be worth giving them a call. They are expensive but I've from the 15+ friends I know who've had babies and used them they have nothing but praise, not only for the information given but also for the people you meet. Tbh - I'm going more for the latter as I don't really know anyone near me and think it'll be a good way of making friends. Am also going to do the NHS freebie ones so I get to go to the hospital but if the participants are anything like those who wait with me for scans/doctors appts they'll all be about 10 years younger than me so a bit worried about feeling like an old fart at 31!

Morocha Interesting to hear you're going to not have dh with you. I know dh would rather avoid it if he could. It's our first and I just know we're going to have problems in the bedroom dept afterwards if he sees what he's going to see. I think I'd be fine on my own but don't really want to risk it in case I'm not! Def don't want my mother or anyone else in there. We haven't really discussed it as it seems to be the "done thing" but maybe we should look at other alternatives.

emweaver

twinklie wrote: »

I'm nervous about giving birth, but it's not constantly on my mind. I just don't feel quite ready yet. I have midwife at 2.30 and last time they found urine in my wee...doh! That was meant to say protein :rotfl: So I'm hoping BP is still down and that the protein has gone away. Bags are all sorted anyway.

I'm so tired today it's not even funny. Honestly I have no clue whats going on I'm that tired. I had a fairly decent nights sleep, but I did go and get my nursing bras yesterday. Think that might have tired me out. I just need a good sofa day watching tv and mooching. I'm so tired.

Ive had protein in my urine for a few weeks and its been due to thrush so maybe a water infection?

Im feeling tired too think its our bodys way of telling us to sleep and prepare for the hard time ahead :rotfl:

morocha

zcrat, Well when dd was born, DH was out of the room , he was hungry and went to get snacks just half and hour before, i was taking to long to dilate.... MIL cut the umbilical cord.
I was relief, i did not want him looking down there, cos yes he is one of those men that will have that in his mind forever...
I have to add tho, i was fully clothed all the time, even delivering the baby had the pyjama like thing... so Mil did not see anything.
I know it means a lot to her to be there, and she will be upset if i tell her no. She is really sweet and i love her.
Maybe a Doula ? or a friend, as long as you tell her to keep by your side, she really shouldnt see anything...

emweaver

morocha wrote: »

hi lovely pregnant ladies !!...

We will have more babies soon, eh ?

I think i am the only odd one here, i don't want my OH in the ward or anywhere close to me during my labour and delivery. This is our second baby, and he was trully awfull the first time around, my MIL was there, and instead of helping me, she was helping him ! lol.. he hates hospitals... And they all laugh now, cos all what i wanted to do, was to be in oneside of the room, bouncing in my ball, very quite, no talking... just coping on my own way. I didnt even want back massages...
DH was relieved when i told him i dont want him there, and MIL said she would be delighted to be there if i want... i mean, shes like my second mum, a very calm person, just to get her to get me the nurse, or some drink/magazines... i think i will have her there, although i wouldnt mind to be on my own.

My dh isn't much use the first time he fell asleep in the chair and was moaning he was tired, the second time he went back to sleep when I woke him up and at the hospital I dont remember him doing much but standing and watching. This time he is all I have and the thought of being alone is much scarier especially after having awful care both previous times.

With DD1 the midwife was a !!!!! she kept shouting at me, refused to examine me when I needed to push, refused me an epidural and was telling all the other staff how I didn't trust anyone when it clearly said in my notes I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks.

The second time I was left in a wheelchair for an hour at 8cm dilated, put in a room with no heating when it was frozen temps outside, not fed and they took my bed away an hour after I had her. She was born at 2.21pm and I discharged myself at 11pm as I was hungry, tired and was still sat in the delivery room in a chair with baby in an incubator as it was so cold. They didn't even weigh her till tea time as they said it was to cold and she needed to be on my skin to warm her up.