MSE Pregnancy Club 25

mrsj28

All this talk of shopping... I just bought something :eek: Ebay bargain, won an auction (only bid in the last few minutes... definite impulse buy... naughty) for this playmat (second hand). I only paid £9.69 including the postage, so I'm quite pleased!

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Fisher-Price-Rainforest-1-2-3-Musical-Gym/dp/B000JIJPZY

Must get off the computer and do something useful.... I haven't even left the house today, although I have had a shower and got dressed which feels like a major achievement. Big basket of ironing to get started on now....

amus

Oh my goodness I must be crazy! Starting a new job next week when I will be 25 weeks pregnant! Technically it is with the same employer, but its a completely different business sector, run as a completely separate business so is for all intents a new job. Actually got the job in September, have just been waiting on a start date for the past 9 months (think there's been some issues with HR). Ah well will have a couple of months (hopefully) to get settled in!

bride2be2012

Hi all, hope everyone is having a good day. Miserable rainy day here, had to put tumble dryer on for first time in ages this morning!

Ended up being out later than I intended last night (home by 11, when did that become 'late'?!), so I'm very tired today, especially as I've had a blocked nose/hayfever so didn't sleep well either.

Is anyone else getting annoyed with people asking what they can buy for baby? Don't get me wrong, I am very, very grateful, but my MIL is driving me insane! My parents offered to buy our pram, and my in laws offered to get our cot, all fine. But MIL seems to think it some kind of competition between my folks and her and FIL, who gets the most/spends the most on the baby! MIL keeps asking what else she can buy (as we're not getting the cot til baby is in her own room), but the only things left on our shopping list are either boring (bibs, thermometer etc) or personal stuff I don't want MIL - or anyone! - buying like breast pads! Same when I happened to mention my mum had knitted a few bits and bobs for baby (my mum knits all the time), MIL rushed out to buy needles and wool so she could start knitting too! Agh, I know it's just coz she cares, and coz she is scared of missing out (we live 2 hours away from her, but 20 mins from my parents) but it doesn't stop it being infuriating! Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Sorry for ranting, but if I get one more text or email I may scream!

mrsj28

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Hi all, hope everyone is having a good day. Miserable rainy day here, had to put tumble dryer on for first time in ages this morning!

Ended up being out later than I intended last night (home by 11, when did that become 'late'?!), so I'm very tired today, especially as I've had a blocked nose/hayfever so didn't sleep well either.

Is anyone else getting annoyed with people asking what they can buy for baby? Don't get me wrong, I am very, very grateful, but my MIL is driving me insane! My parents offered to buy our pram, and my in laws offered to get our cot, all fine. But MIL seems to think it some kind of competition between my folks and her and FIL, who gets the most/spends the most on the baby! MIL keeps asking what else she can buy (as we're not getting the cot til baby is in her own room), but the only things left on our shopping list are either boring (bibs, thermometer etc) or personal stuff I don't want MIL - or anyone! - buying like breast pads! Same when I happened to mention my mum had knitted a few bits and bobs for baby (my mum knits all the time), MIL rushed out to buy needles and wool so she could start knitting too! Agh, I know it's just coz she cares, and coz she is scared of missing out (we live 2 hours away from her, but 20 mins from my parents) but it doesn't stop it being infuriating! Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Sorry for ranting, but if I get one more text or email I may scream!

Oh bless you bride2be - it's so weird how the most well intentioned things can be really frustrating!! It was a bit like that with our parents - and I don't like to take advantage of it by just producing a big list of expensive things!!! Could you say you'd really like to wait until the baby is born and then see what you need.... or maybe even offer to go and choose something together with them (I know, my worst nightmare, but it keeps the in laws soooo happy when I say that). Or what about something you might not buy yourself like a play mat or baby bouncer? Or a changing bag?

I also try not to mention to my parents/in-laws what the other has bought as it does turn into a bit of a competition otherwise!! MIL is an avid knitter and my mum now feels totally inadequate because she doesn't knit....

Not a particularly helpful answer, just to say I know it can be very frustrating, but if you can give MIL an idea of one thing to buy it might keep her quiet... maybe? Hugs!!

mrsj28

amus wrote: »

Oh my goodness I must be crazy! Starting a new job next week when I will be 25 weeks pregnant! Technically it is with the same employer, but its a completely different business sector, run as a completely separate business so is for all intents a new job. Actually got the job in September, have just been waiting on a start date for the past 9 months (think there's been some issues with HR). Ah well will have a couple of months (hopefully) to get settled in!

Good luck amus with the new job! Hopefully the first couple of months will be a settling in/induction type period and not too stressful in the lead up to maternity leave. Probably easier to start it now and familiarise yourself than after your maternity leave.

lilymay1

Just want to say Abis, what a lovely post about an indction. MrsJ - Remember that people are more inclined to talk about a 'horredous' birth experience and what one woman considers bad might be nothing compared to what another woman has had to go through.

If inductions were that awful, women wouldn't have them. You will be fine, even if baby needs a little encouragement t

IHateDida

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Sorry for ranting, but if I get one more text or email I may scream!

Awww...bless you - what a situation!

We have had lots of pressie of clothes and chocolate for me (which has all been appreciated - the choc especially!). The OH's parents wanted to buy a pram - we said no - we have told everyone now that we don't need anything else for baby - we have bought all of the big stuff ourselves (either 2nd hand or a new bargain!) and definitely no more clothes (baby now has more outfits than Madonna!).

But if anyone wants to get anything they can either give some money to start her savings bank account or, come round and take her off our hands for a walk in the pram so we have a few moments to ourselves/offer babysitting! Or perhaps gift vouchers as in time we will need a highchair/pushchair etc...

Just eaten the risotto - sorry baleb - ate it before taking a piccy!:o

Thank you for peoples comments about induction (good and bad) - its possibly looming on Monday for me but I have been speaking to my NCT tutor and she has been superb in offering advice - including insisting on another sweep first - so I am going to contact my doctor tomorrow to try and get one. One of the girls off our NCT course went 18 days overdue so there's hope for me yet!

41+3

Lola888

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Hi all, hope everyone is having a good day. Miserable rainy day here, had to put tumble dryer on for first time in ages this morning!

Ended up being out later than I intended last night (home by 11, when did that become 'late'?!), so I'm very tired today, especially as I've had a blocked nose/hayfever so didn't sleep well either.

Is anyone else getting annoyed with people asking what they can buy for baby? Don't get me wrong, I am very, very grateful, but my MIL is driving me insane! My parents offered to buy our pram, and my in laws offered to get our cot, all fine. But MIL seems to think it some kind of competition between my folks and her and FIL, who gets the most/spends the most on the baby! MIL keeps asking what else she can buy (as we're not getting the cot til baby is in her own room), but the only things left on our shopping list are either boring (bibs, thermometer etc) or personal stuff I don't want MIL - or anyone! - buying like breast pads! Same when I happened to mention my mum had knitted a few bits and bobs for baby (my mum knits all the time), MIL rushed out to buy needles and wool so she could start knitting too! Agh, I know it's just coz she cares, and coz she is scared of missing out (we live 2 hours away from her, but 20 mins from my parents) but it doesn't stop it being infuriating! Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Sorry for ranting, but if I get one more text or email I may scream!

There isn't much you can do. My parents bought our pram for us so MIL bought the cot, but also she comes over once or twice a week with loads of stuff. The other day she came over with 2 outifts, a pair of £6 sunglasses, a Disney towel and a hat because she knew we had booked a holiday, but she always buys our LO stuff. My parents don't compete, but they did give her £1,000 for her 1st birthday and Christmas as they think giving her money for the future is better than buying loads of stuff she really doesn't need.

I agree with my parents. It got to the point where my LO was like a super model she never wore the same thing twice as she was growing so fast and I didn't want my MIL to get upset. I've had enough now as a lot of the clothes are pink and frilly (she thinks girls should wear dresses and pink!).

I've got loads of stuff with tags still on and I don't care. It's her money so I can't tell her what to do, but I think when she found out about the pram and the money she thinks it is a contest.

You could set up a bank account when LO is born and ask them to put pocket money in as a standing order? My brother, sister and MIL now pay £5 a month into her bank account- she has more money than me!!

pigpen

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Hi all, hope everyone is having a good day. Miserable rainy day here, had to put tumble dryer on for first time in ages this morning!

Ended up being out later than I intended last night (home by 11, when did that become 'late'?!), so I'm very tired today, especially as I've had a blocked nose/hayfever so didn't sleep well either.

Is anyone else getting annoyed with people asking what they can buy for baby? Don't get me wrong, I am very, very grateful, but my MIL is driving me insane! My parents offered to buy our pram, and my in laws offered to get our cot, all fine. But MIL seems to think it some kind of competition between my folks and her and FIL, who gets the most/spends the most on the baby! MIL keeps asking what else she can buy (as we're not getting the cot til baby is in her own room), but the only things left on our shopping list are either boring (bibs, thermometer etc) or personal stuff I don't want MIL - or anyone! - buying like breast pads! Same when I happened to mention my mum had knitted a few bits and bobs for baby (my mum knits all the time), MIL rushed out to buy needles and wool so she could start knitting too! Agh, I know it's just coz she cares, and coz she is scared of missing out (we live 2 hours away from her, but 20 mins from my parents) but it doesn't stop it being infuriating! Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Sorry for ranting, but if I get one more text or email I may scream!

tell them to save the money and put it in a trust fund or isa for the baby once it arrives

pigpen

IHateDida wrote: »

Haven't got a clue how big mine will be after the massive extra incubation period - !

DD1 had her dollop 16 days over and he was a massive 7lb 14 .. and OH's cousins baby was 6lb 11 at 12 days over... so it might not actually be big at all.