Curfew for a 17 year old

thatlemming

By 16 my mum just asked that I text her before 1am to let her know what I was doing, never had a curfew, and I don't think anyone I knew did either. Same with my brother who has just turned 17.

ciderwithrosie_2

Youngest, who is also 17, will tell me where he's going but often stays out all night. He seems to have a house party/rave in a field every weekend to go to. However when he's got college he's usually in bed by about 10.30pm. In his favour, he's streetwise and not easily led so I do trust him to behave, not kick off like some do when they've had a drink.

Oldest two weren't so keen on staying out all night, they preferred their own beds.

Lara44

I didn't have a curfew at that age. Midweek I was expected to be home at a reasonable time for school the next day. On weekends I could go out late, but not really later than 3am. I had to let my parents know where I was and who I was with (and still do when I visit at age 30 :rotfl:).

I think as another poster said, it's more about agreeing rules together at this age. I think you need to cut the apron strings a bit - he will be 18 very soon. Do you really need to know he's in safe before you can sleep? Has he had any problem behaviour / trouble with the Police in the past?

P.s. I was raised in N.I. too

con1888

I didn't have a curfew at 17 nor does my 17 year old brother now.

Our rule was if we weren't coming home atall to text our parents and let them know where we were staying so that they didn't worry when we weren't home in the morning.

System

Until my son is 18 and if he still lives at home. He will live by my rules or lump it.

Yes i had the same sort of conversation with my son on Sunday. :mad:

poppy_f1

from 16 i had no curfew even tho i was still at school i was allowed free reign and had to use my own sense about coming home late when having school the next day
as long as i called my folks to say if i was coming home or not everything was fine (this was in the day before mobiles as well)

onlyroz

If I had a 17-year-old in full time education, I wouldn't instigate a curfew *if* the following conditions were met:

- School work came first
- Any housework assigned to them was done
- They treated *us* with the proper respect
- I *always* knew when they would be back home, I knew roughly where they were, and would be informed if there was a delay

Jinx

You are fighting a losing battle OP. Hes nearly 18, almost old enough to vote, fight for his country, get married etc. I live in Scotland - so legally an adult and responsible for self at 16.

In all honesty I think you are doing yourself no favours, in my view you should have been loosening the reins over the last couple of years. Others have posted he should have had an adult conversation with you, well that would only have worked if you were open to negotiation.... Are you?

At 17 I was working full time, paying digs and would not have accepted a curfew.

busiscoming2

My eldest two didn't have curfews but they knew to let me know a rough time they would be home and an indicator of where they were going. If things changed during the evening they would text or phone.

Youngest is still only 15 and so he has a curfew, but still he lets me know if he is running late.

ciderwithrosie_2

From my point of view I would rather my son stay at a friend's house after a party say and come home in daylight than insist he come back everytime and walk home alone in the early hours of the morning - we live in a large town in a somewhat rural area but there are still lots of idiots about at that time of night after the clubs have chucked out etc.