Hypothetically speaking........

nikki02_2

I've been there..... I stayed. He punched doors and cupboards, threw things, and stormed about like a child.... I stayed.

He assaulted me.......I stayed.

He assaulted my child........that was my wake up call.

(These incidents were very sporadic, over a period of 3 years. )

PLEASE PLEASE make plans to leave. There are lots of people on here who can help and advise you, including me. It will feel like it's not possible at the minute, I KNOW, but it IS. Please PM me if you need too xx

nikki02_2

FIfi Browne...........does he behave like this in front of others or just you?

If it's just you........he doesn't have 'anger issues' because he can control himself around other people. Anger problems would result in him behaving this way around anybody, not just behind closed doors. What you're witnessing is domestic violence.

duchy

fifi_browne wrote: »

Together about 10 years, married for 6 - ish. HUGE mortgage. I don't want to impose myself on someone else.

Having gone back and read the previous thread about your son......... You imposed this man on your son -to the point he moved to the other side of the world as this man made life so intolerable.........and now you're making MORE excuses for this man.

What will it take him to do to you to make you realize you are in a toxic relationship ?

Alienate your son ? No he's already done that
Smash up your home ? Nope does that too-three or four times a year
Smash your face in ? Can you honestly say this won't be the next step in the escalation......and then he'll blame you for winding him up and made him do it !

I'm sure the first time he smashed your things up you thought he was sorry.......I'm sure when you posted about his poor attitude towards your son you never thought he'd drive your son away to the other side of the world.........so what makes you so sure he won't hit you ? Do you REALLY want to wait to find out you miscalculated-again ?

Silver_123

thatgirlsam wrote: »

He deserves to cry, good!

Are you afraid of what he'll do to you if you go?

Your son can still be the love of your life.

Yes I am afraid of him and I speak to my son EVERY day without fail.

Silver_123

nikki02 wrote: »

FIfi Browne...........does he behave like this in front of others or just you?

If it's just you........he doesn't have 'anger issues' because he can control himself around other people. Anger problems would result in him behaving this way around anybody, not just behind closed doors. What you're witnessing is domestic violence.

No, not in front of others - people do know he is on a short fuse and not terribly liked. I realise the domestic violence thing too.

thatgirlsam

fifi_browne wrote: »

Yes I am afraid of him and I speak to my son EVERY day without fail.

Go to a women's refuge. You can leave without him knowing.

Silver_123

nikki02 wrote: »

I've been there..... I stayed. He punched doors and cupboards, threw things, and stormed about like a child.... I stayed.

He assaulted me.......I stayed.

He assaulted my child........that was my wake up call.

(These incidents were very sporadic, over a period of 3 years. )

PLEASE PLEASE make plans to leave. There are lots of people on here who can help and advise you, including me. It will feel like it's not possible at the minute, I KNOW, but it IS. Please PM me if you need too xx

Gosh - you've made me cry! Thanks I will when I can think straight. xx

Silver_123

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Go to a women's refuge. You can leave without him knowing.

I have animals here that are mine.

thatgirlsam

fifi_browne wrote: »

I have animals here that are mine.

You seem to have a lot of excuses for not leaving.

Do you want to leave him?

There are charities that will help as far as the animals are concerned

Silver_123

duchy wrote: »

I bet he has driven away all your friends as well as your family.

Well he has tried to drive wedges between some of them and me. Tells tales to them about me, some take no notice and some take his side...........!