Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

skintchick

Absolutely not to either situation. I'd also expect him to leave a pub if stripper turned up. It's a deal breaker for me, I consider it a form of infidelity.

rachhh

On the odd occasion, I have no problem, even with private dances as long as obviously there's no touching. I'm secure in myself and in my relationship, so there wouldn't be a jealousy issue on my part.
And there does seem to be a double standard with women of not liking their partners seeing female strippers but think it's fine for them and female friends to go to see male strippers.

Lancslass1982

Just to add that I had no problem with him being at the lap dancing club and watching the girls dancing and stripping on the stage etc. It's the intimacy of the one on one lap dance that I have a definite problem with. I think this might be the nail in the coffin to be honest.

skintchick

Just seen the OP's other post. I'm afraid you have lost the moral high ground a bit. You should have left the room while the stripper was there. That's what I would have done.

But I totally get why you're upset. My OH would be out on his ear if he had a private dance.

19lottie82

I've been in a lap dancing club with my BF a couple of times as we both know the manager and we can usually get a few drinks out of him! But back to the original topic, like a few other posters, i would have no problem with him going to a club with his mates but I would mind him getting a private dance.

raven83

Lancslass1982 wrote: »

Just to add that I had no problem with him being at the lap dancing club and watching the girls dancing and stripping on the stage etc. It's the intimacy of the one on one lap dance that I have a definite problem with. I think this might be the nail in the coffin to be honest.

I wouldn't say it was intimacy though, yeah a naked woman withering around naked while the man ogles, but its is not intimacy. I can see why you would be pis$ed though, but if your relationship has been good up until that point is it really worth throwing it all away?

Torry_Quine

Lancslass1982 wrote: »

I agree poorly scammo, it is obviously something that different people will have different views on. I just wanted to make sure that my views were not completely different to others' views.

Basically my bf went on my brother's stag do this weekend and on one of the nights, ended up in a quite well know lap dancing club. Fine, I thought. Bit of embarrassment for the stag, to cajole him into a dance and have a laugh at him. However, on my bf's return, he has admitted that he paid for a private dance.

I am absolutely disgusted and have told him so. The thought that he chose to have some naked stripper dancing for him alone has upset me so much. To be honest I can't even look at him.

I have told him how I feel and he says that he can't understand why I'm making such a big deal out of it. This just upset me even more. He says I can't have it both ways because we got the bride-to-be a stripper at her hen do. However, for me, there is a significant difference between 6 hens giggling and shrieking at a stripper, who ended his act by getting the bride-to-be to throw hoops on his penis, and somebody paying for a naked dance in a private booth.

I am gutted.:(

My bold -: sorry but that to me is just as wrong and unsavoury. If you can't see this then a discussion between the two of you is needed. I would think that from his perspective the activities are equivelent.

skintchick wrote: »

Absolutely not to either situation. I'd also expect him to leave a pub if stripper turned up. It's a deal breaker for me, I consider it a form of infidelity.

I have to agree here. Thankfully he does too.

Lancslass1982

^ I mean the intimacy in the fact that it is a private dance, focused solely on him, in a private booth.

thatgirlsam

Wouldn't bother me. Guys like seeing nekkid women. Oh well.

To all the women who would not want their partner to see or expect him to walk out the room... do you think your partner doesn't look at p0rn?

Even the lap dance I would probably be ok with! I really don't think some girl who does this for a living is suddenly going to make a beeline and try and nab my fella!

If they wanted to do it every weekend I wouldn't be happy.

mildred1978

Wouldn't/doesn't bother me in the slightest.