"He is dying..."

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

olgadapolga wrote: »

The only problem with this is that relatives cannot donate a person's body after death. Only the person themselves can donate their own body and have to sign a consent form (and have it witnessed) before their death.

But, worse than that, the medical schools may decide that the donated body is not "acceptable" and will return the body to the relatives!

See: http://www.hta.gov.uk/bodyorganandtissuedonation/howtodonateyourbody.cfm

Cremation, no service, then put the ashes in the bag with the used cat litter in the wheelie bin?

(especially appropriate if he disliked cats/pets)


Or chuck it in the first bus stop litter bin as you come out?

londonsurrey

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Cremation, no service, then put the ashes in the bag with the used cat litter in the wheelie bin?

(especially appropriate if he disliked cats/pets)


Or chuck it in the first bus stop litter bin as you come out?

I'm so glad I'm not the only person to think about this as a way to dispose of ashes you didn't want. In my case, I was eyeing up dog litter bins in the park.

GobbledyGook

Thank you for bringing a smile to my face folks. Some of these have actually made me chuckle.

If it had turned out I had some sort of legal responsibility then it would have been a cremation and scattering in the garden bit of the crem. As opposed to the grand funeral (in the chapel), 5 cars for the whole "family", burial with "his wife and son" (and grand, extravagant headstone to match) followed by the steak pie meal for the family and mourners that his sisters seem to think I have some sort of duty to pay for.

That's similar to what they done for one of the Aunts sons and my grandmother last year by all accounts. They never bothered with them when they were alive, wouldn't have given them a £5 for the electric meter if they needed it, but after they died there was this grand outpouring.

It's all about the image of the "family name" you see. That is what my brother and I were told, at 7 years old, we had damaged. Not "sorry my son battered and starved you" or "sorry that Granny didn't help you out", but "Do you realise the embarrassment you've brought on the family name?"

They are a weird bunch.

londonsurrey

GobbledyGook wrote: »

It's all about the image of the "family name" you see. That is what my brother and I were told, at 7 years old, we had damaged. Not "sorry my son battered and starved you" or "sorry that Granny didn't help you out", but "Do you realise the embarrassment you've brought on the family name?"

"I am so sorry for the problems I've wrought on your weird little exclusive club. I hated being in it, didn't ask to join. If you could please blackball me immediately and count me out, I'd be very grateful. Thank you."

mountainofdebt

londonsurrey wrote: »

"I am so sorry for the problems I've wrought on your weird little exclusive club. I hated being in it, didn't ask to join. If you could please blackball me immediately and count me out, I'd be very grateful. Thank you."

Oh you are awful LS ......but I like it (alot!)

londonsurrey

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Oh you are awful LS ......but I like it (alot!)

I'm such an obliging happy little ray of sunshine, aren't I?

Mojisola

londonsurrey wrote: »

"I am so sorry for the problems I've wrought on your weird little exclusive club. I hated being in it, didn't ask to join. If you could please blackball me immediately and count me out, I'd be very grateful. Thank you."

Humour is a great way of cutting the ties people like this try to wrap you in. It's very hard to take people seriously when you're laughing at them.

GobbledyGook

I like that one LS.

I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't for the fact that they've ignored me for the majority of my life. If my grandmother hadn't been an evil witch and he'd made a will then none of this would even be happening. There's no way they'd be pestering me if they didn't think I was going to inherit from him.

HeatherintheHills

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I was lucky in life, my grandparents stepped in early (we were with them and getting help when we were 7) and they took a huge chance. They just took us on a weekend and went for the legal channels after. Not probably a recommended course of action, but was the best thing to happen to us.

Gemma, your Nana and Grandad sound absolutely amazing. When you think of what they must have gone through in reaching the decision to get you and your brother away from your father, even though that meant taking you away from their own daughter, then following through with it. Wow, that must have been heart breaking for them, but they put you and your brother first. What fantastic people and true family they were.

From your posts here I'd say you completely vindicated their actions and then some. You are a true credit to the family that counts. The rest of them can go stuff themselves.

You are showing great respect in considering scattering his ashes in the garden of remembrance if it comes to it. I'm not sure I'd be able to find that level of compassion if I were in your shoes. I'd be seriously tempted by the dog poo bin option, there is a poetic justice to that one.

HeatherintheHills

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I like that one LS.

I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't for the fact that they've ignored me for the majority of my life. If my grandmother hadn't been an evil witch and he'd made a will then none of this would even be happening. There's no way they'd be pestering me if they didn't think I was going to inherit from him.

Just thought, he is still alive isn't he? You could text his evil sisters and tell them to get a solicitor round to the hospital so he can make a will, there is still time. No doubt they will dictate it for him, then there is no need for them to pester you any more?