How do i tell my wife im £37k in debt

dawnybabes

Bump - r u there - the suspense is killing me !!

tacklinit

Hope all is well

aah

I have 34k of debt and my hubby doesn't know. He knows I have some debt but not the full extent.

I can manage to put my bit into our joint account every month and work hard to keep tesco and other costs that come out of this account down so it pays for our (cheap) holidays etc etc.

He is saving to replace his car so isnt wanting to spend loads of money anyway.

I'm not going to tell him, not until its paid off, ages yet.

wherediditallgo

aah wrote: »

I have 34k of debt and my hubby doesn't know. He knows I have some debt but not the full extent.

I can manage to put my bit into our joint account every month and work hard to keep tesco and other costs that come out of this account down so it pays for our (cheap) holidays etc etc.

He is saving to replace his car so isnt wanting to spend loads of money anyway.

I'm not going to tell him, not until its paid off, ages yet.

Ooh, are you really planning to keep such a big secret until 2014? :eek: I realise that you're trying to deal with it yourself, & it's great that you're trying to sort it out rather than pretending it doesn't exist. But how would you feel if you found out that your husband had been keeping such an important secret from you for all those years? And how do you think he'll react if he finds out before you're ready to tell him? I'm the sort of person who'd rather know about a problem & share the worry than live in blissful ignorance, only to find out much later, maybe if I'd made things worse without realising.

omg_3

There is never a good time to tell, "Just do it"
Thie is from experience!

*zippy*

Has anyone sent him a pm? might be worth a try

tacklinit

I kept my wife in the dark for some years but it all got too much. No sleep chest pains etc. However on a positve note tackled the problem / confession and whilst she was angry / disappointed all is very very good now and the light at the end of the tunnel has started to blink we / my wife has sorted a plan and we can get on with life. I am such a lucky man really hard to explain how lucky really.

elantan

i really hope i'm wrong here but i think i might smell a troll ...hope i am wrong though

*zippy*

elantan wrote: »

i really hope i'm wrong here but i think i might smell a troll ...hope i am wrong though

He has made a few posts on other threads saying he is making positive steps. I think its probably that he hasn't told her yet, perhaps he is getting things straight as he can first.

elantan

yeah i hope that is it zippy i really do just i have seen trolls doing this before and it sux big time ...so many people on here as just amazing and reach out and help others ...i just didnt want them to be scammed ...but if he has other posts then i am wrong (and glad to be) and totally apologise for my mistakes ...i have followed this from the start (just still dont feel able to give advice yet) and the support is amazing...sorry if i have offended anyone