One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

pink_princess

yvonne13 wrote: »

OMG!!! What the hell is this!!! What kind of nasty dirty rag is my friend married to?

He has just informed me that if I tell my friend what happened today he will tell her that he and I have been having an affair.

That's it I need to get solid proof as she knows I don't like him and she may believe him over me.

Are you reacting because of what you having to go through? You know that your friend wouldn't believe that surely.

You have solied proof of what you witnessed. The employee will say the same, that she believes this is her fiance.

Just tell your friend the facts as you witnessed and were told, then it is up to her from this point on.

It does sound like he is becoming desperate though, so do not go round. Just keep trying to ring. Does your friend have fb?

yvonne13_2

krlyr wrote: »

Do you have a sound recording feature on your phone, or a microphone for you PC? Call him back and try to record the conversation?
Did you see if they left the shop with any bags earlier - credit card bill might show an Ann Summers transaction for today's date that you could show her as proof (though guess he may say he was buying it for you)
Will the co-worker back you up, do you think? Maybe if you trick her into it, invite your friend to your office and show the coworker a photo of the husband & ask co-worker if she knows him?
Is the co-worker on Facebook? You could add her to see if there's any photos of her and him? Or maybe try to procure one for her, say you'd like to get one framed for an engagement gift and could she email one to you?

That's a point I could strategically place some of my friends wedding photos on my desk at work and ask the co-worker to look at them asking if she likes the wedding dress.

Therefore I have not told her she has simply found out herself.

Bloom my friends mobile is now off and the landline is ringing out.

snozberry

Your title really doesn't make sense. I thought that your colleague was having a child for them and not preggers because of him.

Tbh, if it was my best friend I would tell her because I would expect my best friend to tell me should my fella be playing away from home. Your friend will be really upset and may take some of her anger out on you (the anger will make her lash out) but you need to be there for her. Just don't give your opinion on him.

POPPYOSCAR

Bad enough finding out your husband is having/had an affair but to find out that he is engaged and the girlfriend is also pregnant, I could not even begin to imagine the emotional trauma that could cause someone especially whilst pregnant.

Errata

yvonne13 wrote: »

That's a point I could strategically place some of my friends wedding photos on my desk at work and ask the co-worker to look at them asking if she likes the wedding dress.

Therefore I have not told her she has simply found out herself.

Bloom my friends mobile is now off and the landline is ringing out.

Don't play games with people's lives ! Be honest and upright, because someone in this sorry debacle should be.

pink_princess

yvonne13 wrote: »

That's a point I could strategically place some of my friends wedding photos on my desk at work and ask the co-worker to look at them asking if she likes the wedding dress.

Therefore I have not told her she has simply found out herself.

Bloom my friends mobile is now off and the landline is ringing out.

What would that achieve? That is going to hurt her and shock her more, infront of collegues potentially.

I think that would be an awful thing to do.

balletshoes

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Some people will believe anything rather than face an ugly truth and the possibility of losing their husband.

i agree, this is not going to be an easy conversation at all between the OP and her best friend, but in her shoes I'd have to tell her straightaway, if I had no doubt her husband was playing away, had got engaged to someone else I knew personally, and was having a baby with her too.

yvonne13_2

Errata wrote: »

Don't play games with people's lives ! Be honest and upright, because someone in this sorry debacle should be.

This is what my worry is, it is none of my business yet I am faced with a difficult situation not only on a work level but on a personal level.

I know that when I tell the woman at work she will be asking for time off and my best friend will get mad at me as her head is all over the place at the moment.

I have a big headache now over all of this and I am trying my best to not get overly involved but she is my best friend and I guess even if she gets mad at me I have to do the right thing and tell her.

I wish I never went shopping now and all of this has left me so upset.:(

whitewing

I agree with Errata about behaving with dignity.

Tell your friend asap.

Tell your colleague at the end of the day, so that the rest of the workplace doesn't get involved. If you tell her earlier, allow her to have the rest of the day off.

looby75

pink_princess wrote: »

What would that achieve? That is going to hurt her and shock her more, infront of collegues potentially.

I think that would be an awful thing to do.

I was just about to post the same thing.

Yvonne telling your co worker should be done in private and directly. I can completely understand why you are reluctant to tell her, no one likes to be the barer of bad news especially as devastating as this will be to them both, but you know it's something you have to do