One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

yvonne13_2

I am so angry, confused and upset.

For the last 2 months or so I have heard none stop about one of the girls at work being pregnant. I was really happy for her as she has been trying for a baby for a long time.

It never dawned on me whom she was pregnant too as it is none of my business, but today as I was shopping I had the biggest shock of my life.

She is pregnant to my best friends fella :eek:
He was in shock and pretended that he didn't know whom I was and she introduced him as her fiancee and she called him by a different name.
I asked her where they met and she reminded me that he picked me up at the Christmas party just gone.

I don't know what to do as my best friend is married to him and she too is pregnant for him, I don't want her to find out that I knew even though I have only just found out today.

I don't like mix up but how can I get her to find out for herself without me actually having to tell her that I know?

Gigglepig

Jeremy Kyle? ;-)

Just kidding. I think this sounds like a pretty messy and horrible situation no matter what you do op.

If it is a close friend, I would go straight to my friend as soon as I knew about it, if it comes out that you knew but did not tell her she may feel betrayed by you as well.

kazwookie

IMO if you are a best friend of the other female, the best thing is to tell her, that IMO is what best friends are for.

*what a low life he is, 2 women pregnant, one married to him, the other 'thinks' she is his fiancee, he seems to be using 2 different names*

I think both of them would be better off with out him.

krlyr

Gigglepig wrote: »

If it is a close friend, I would go straight to my friend as soon as I knew about it, if it comes out that you knew but did not tell her she may feel betrayed by you as well.

Ditto. Having been in the situation where a friend found out about an ex of mine chatting up other girls, I was relieved to be told. Some people might "shoot the messenger" or choose not to believe it, but ultimately I'd feel it was my duty, as such, as a friend to tell her what I'd found out.

liney

yvonne13 wrote: »

I am so angry, confused and upset.

For the last 2 months or so I have heard none stop about one of the girls at work being pregnant. I was really happy for her as she has been trying for a baby for a long time.

It never dawned on me whom she was pregnant too as it is none of my business, but today as I was shopping I had the biggest shock of my life.

She is pregnant to my best friends fella :eek:
He was in shock and pretended that he didn't know whom I was and she introduced him as her fiancee and she called him by a different name.
I asked her where they met and she reminded me that he picked me up at the Christmas party just gone.

I don't know what to do as my best friend is married to him and she too is pregnant for him, I don't want her to find out that I knew even though I have only just found out today.

I don't like mix up but how can I get her to find out for herself without me actually having to tell her that I know?

If it was me i'd have to tell my friend. It's better she hear it from you than some random person.

He is making her look a fool and if you don't tell her, when she finds out, lover boy will be sure to include you in the recount which will probably mean the end to your friendship.

Doesn't the worker think it's odd that her fiancee pretended he doesn't know you, yet she knows he collected you from a Christmas party?

balletshoes

She is your best friend, you have to tell her what you know. I'm sure it will be a very difficult conversation for both of you, but you have to do it.

yvonne13_2

liney wrote: »

If it was me i'd have to tell my friend. It's better she hear it from you than some random person.

He is making her look a fool and if you don't tell her, when she finds out, lover boy will be sure to include you in the recount which will probably mean the end to your friendship.

Doesn't the worker think it's odd that her fiancee pretended he doesn't know you, yet she knows he collected you from a Christmas party?

I thought that too, but he made out that it was just a lift as it was my friend he knew and not me hence not remembering me.

fannyanna

yvonne13 wrote: »

I thought that too, but he made out that it was just a lift as it was my friend he knew and not me hence not remembering me.

I’m confused! So at Christmas you and this work colleague were given a lift by a man. This man is your best friend’s husband. You know this now but at Christmas you didn’t realise.

Is that right?

samuela66

I would have to tell my friend for sure, I would want to be told if it was me.
The girl called him by another name, so basically he is lying to two women.
I bet you wished you'd had the courage to say something, but shock stops you doesnt it.
I would want to be told as I am sure most of the population would......

newcook

fannyanna wrote: »

I’m confused! So at Christmas you and this work colleague were given a lift by a man. This man is your best friend’s husband. You know this now but at Christmas you didn’t realise.

Is that right?

I read it to be that he knew OP’s plus one as well as OP but has told the girl he got pregnant he only knew her plus 1

yvonne13_2

fannyanna wrote: »

I’m confused! So at Christmas you and this work colleague were given a lift by a man. This man is your best friend’s partner. You know this now but at Christmas you didn’t realise.

Is that right?

No Hun, I know him perfectly well, that is the story he is giving this woman.

He picked up his wife and myself not my colleague, he must have been talking to her when he arrived or letting us know he was outside.

(Sorry it must be confusing as I am trying not to use people's names)