One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

mildred1978

I know of a couple locally - friend of a friend type thing. Her husband had an affair after they had several failed IVF attempts. Wife finds out and forgives, on the condition that he never see the mistress again. He agrees. Couple of months later discover that wife is pregnant. Brilliant.

Yep, you guessed it. The mistress was also pregnant. Babies were born 2 weeks apart and both now attend the same nursery. They'll be going onto school together and everything. Apart from paying maintenance he has nothing to do with one of the children, and they have no idea they are half brothers.

Dreadful situation.

lostinrates

FBaby wrote: »

That would just make me text her to call me, email her, or go and knock on the door!!!

Presumably he has the phone, if he answered and the landline is refered to seperatley.

I would not go round alone either. A man who feels his situation to be precarious might well be liable to act desperately and possiobly aggressively. While friend has to be told she does deserve to be told in the least damaging way possible.

Its likely he is going to tell her that you have been mean about her/lied or are in some other way unreliable before you get a chance to tell her now.

marisco_2

What an awful mess. There he is leading at least a double life and two women, who no doubt have deep feelings for him, are pregnant and being treated like fools. Personally I think both women need to know the truth as soon as possible.

Normally in situations where there is another woman on the scene I would advise to stay well out of it. In this case though it seems clear that your work colleague has no idea what she has got involved in. Who knows how many more he has got on the go and possibly 'with child'

FBaby

lostinrates wrote: »

Presumably he has the phone, if he answered and the landline is refered to seperatley.

Surely he can't kidnap her phone for long before she starts wondering what is going on. I would continue to try to call it.

yvonne13_2

pink_princess wrote: »

What did you say to him when he said that?

I didn't get a word in he slammed down the phone. I'm going to call back on her mobile again.

pink_princess

yvonne13 wrote: »

I didn't get a word in he slammed down the phone. I'm going to call back on her mobile again.

What an awful thing for you to get caught up in.

Do you have any body with you? x

lostinrates

FBaby wrote: »

Surely he can't kidnap her phone for long before she starts wondering what is going on. I would continue to try to call it.

Totally depends on their relation ship. I neglect my phone and dh might have it for a while totally onnocently,i would not think anyting of it. If its her work phone then i would guess not. Infact, says she is self e,ployed? What about work email address with a call me urgently, message?

Saint_Chris

I would contact your friend, as she is your friend, and tell her what you know, dont' leave it to long, as hubby could get there 1st and start making that web of lies bigger, after all he knows your onto him, and it seems he's happy to live a lie.

I would also tell your friend that you really didnt' know what to do and how to handle the situation, then give her a print out of this thread, and say this is why i told you, others thought that i should tell you.

Good luck, because at 1st you will not come out good in this, but remember she's your friend, and she will need you, i just hope that your co-worker has good friends to help her, but i wouldn't try to be a friend to both of them, no matter how sorry you feel for your co-worker.

xxx

POPPYOSCAR

If I were the wife I would not want to know as I was about to give birth, having my first child was such a special experience I would not have wanted anything to ruin that.

I would, however, speak to the girlfriend and let her know the full situation. I would also talk to the husband and let him know that he cannot keep it a secret forever and that if he does not tell his wife you will have to.

pink_princess

Saint_Chris wrote: »

I would contact your friend, as she is your friend, and tell her what you know, dont' leave it to long, as hubby could get there 1st and start making that web of lies bigger, after all he knows your onto him, and it seems he's happy to live a lie.

I would also tell your friend that you really didnt' know what to do and how to handle the situation, then give her a print out of this thread, and say this is why i told you, others thought that i should tell you.

Good luck, because at 1st you will not come out good in this, but remember she's your friend, and she will need you, i just hope that your co-worker has good friends to help her, but i wouldn't try to be a friend to both of them, no matter how sorry you feel for your co-worker.

xxx

:eek: That is the last thing I would do.

Bad enough finding out that your OH is a scumbag, but to find out that your bestfriend then told strangers before you knew :eek: Don't do that OP please.

I do understand why you needed other peoples points of view but don't let your friend know.