Self Respect vs Responsibility

POPPYOSCAR

lostinrates wrote: »

:D didyou think i had nice white hair and was a nice old lady?

I am thirty three i think. I have been married since midtwenties, whoch is quite aging though:eek::D and ill since i think twenty three or four, which is more so:rotfl::rotfl:

Well I did not think you were quite that old!

But I must admit I did imagine you to be a little older than thirty three as your posts often seem to be borne from quite a bit of life experience.

POPPYOSCAR

Talking of teenagers and their cars my daughter actually refuses to get in the car with her brother when he is driving.

preciousillusions

(excuse me as haven't read subsequent pages yet)

Mojisola wrote: »

I don't think many people do think like this any more.

Really? Look at the recent London campaign about unlicensed taxi drivers, I saw a poster in the underground the other day. It's all 'make sure you know for certain your taxi is licensed after a night out' etc etc and showed a woman dressed up, alone, glazed drunk look. The message should be to the perpetrators 'don't bloody pretend to be a licensed taxi as a way of targeting vulnerable women, it's not acceptable you sick !!!!!!!s'. But no, the focus is on the victim, suggesting that if you do get in a cab and don't check it's legit then get raped it is your fault. & so many people will see absolutely nothing wrong with a campaign like that, the implicit message is received quite blindly.

eta: This is a great piece about advertising and victim blaming: http://ontoberlin.blogspot.co.uk/2011/10/tale-of-two-rape-prevention-campaigns.html

thatgirlsam

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Talking of teenagers and their cars my daughter actually refuses to get in the car with her brother when he is driving.

Aw, on the one hand I find that terribly sad. Sad that your daughter is scared of something basic like getting in a car.

One the other hand, I have no idea how dangerous your son's driving is! Is he is really that dangerous?

lostinrates

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Well I did not think you were quite that old!

But I must admit I did imagine you to be a little older than thirty three as your posts often seem to be borne from quite a bit of life experience.

Well, its been a full life! I have lived all over the show, worked in an industry that cuts little slack for kids when i was a kid, and was quite comfortable in an adult world in a way i would not particularly want for a child of mine, and a different career since then, during and after uni, then not working! Dh was much the same, so we are slightly young fogeyish. .

POPPYOSCAR

preciousillusions wrote: »

(excuse me as haven't read subsequent pages yet)



Really? Look at the recent London campaign about unlicensed taxi drivers, I saw a poster in the underground the other day. It's all 'make sure you know for certain your taxi is licensed after a night out' etc etc and showed a woman dressed up, alone, glazed drunk look. The message should be to the perpetrators 'don't bloody pretend to be a licensed taxi as a way of targeting vulnerable women, it's not acceptable you sick !!!!!!!s'. But no, the focus is on the victim, suggesting that if you do get in a cab and don't check it's legit then get raped it is your fault.

What good would a message like that do, they would take no notice!

I do not read it saying it is your own fault, I read it as warning to women that this could happen to you especially if you are a bit worse for wear and not have your faculties about you.

POPPYOSCAR

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Aw, on the one hand I find that terribly sad. Sad that your daughter is scared of something basic like getting in a car.

One the other hand, I have no idea how dangerous your son's driving is! Is he is really that dangerous?

No she is not scared of getting into a car, she is sacred of getting into his car with him!!

His driving is awful, last time I was in the car with him I felt sick and told him to stop driving the way he was or stop and let me out and I would get a cab!.

I have not been in the car with him since.

gingin_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Hurrah, i have found a measure By which i am 'young'. I am unde thirtyfive.

Me too. In fact, it has been the high point in my (admittedly quiet) day.

thatgirlsam

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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No she is not scared of getting into a car, she is sacred of getting into his car with him!!

His driving is awful, last time I was in the car with him I felt sick and told him to stop driving the way he was or stop and let me out and I would get a cab!.

I have not been in the car with him since.

Now this would give me a real reason to worry!

Tell him not to drive faster than his Guardian Angel can fly!!

Mojisola

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

What good would a message like that do, they would take no notice!

I do not read it saying it is your own fault, I read it as warning to women that this could happen to you especially if you are a bit worse for wear and not have your faculties about you.

Exactly! That's why there are posters around saying "Watch out! There's a thief about" advising people to look after their belongings.

Posters saying "Don't be a thief! It's bad!" would be a waste of trees.