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I'm at the end of my tether!!
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Yes it is hell our marriage
Don't ask me why I stayed 25 years
I wasn't well and for the last two years things have gone wrong - not marriage related.
He hasn't been very nice to me when I was ill or tired - in fact he shouts at me when I don't feel good. He doesn't sort our son out, yet aggressive with me.
If I feel good about anything, he invents a problem to spoil it, I can never have anything nice without him spoiling it. He suddenly feels tired and not well and I have to care for him. Celebrations never go well.
Every holiday, job and happy event has been marred by this.
The only happy time I have had is when I had time alone but I had our son and it was hard being a single parent but didn't want to leave him either so stayed.
Now he is old enough, I don't have to stay.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T
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I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
So dont. You have the house valuation. Leave if they spoil it get them for the difference. Dont suffer like this you are worth so much more.
You are angry hurt and abused. Your son has no respect for you because your oh doesnt either.
Stand up for yourself. Make the decision. dont make yourself worse.0 -
I know you cant answer right now but I have been in an abusive marriage mainly verbaly and its a killer.0
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He left school 3 years ago and started uni.
He started uni at 16?!
How can you have been married to your OH for 25 years and yet have been a single parent of a child who's now 19?
"Yes it is hell our marriage
Don't ask me why I stayed 25 years"
"The only happy time I have had is when I had time alone but I had our son and it was hard being a single parent but didn't want to leave him either so stayed."
Apologies if I've misunderstood but this doesn't make sense.0 -
maybe born in august!0
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I am sorry to hear thatI know you cant answer right now but I have been in an abusive marriage mainly verbaly and its a killer.
If you want to PM me to talk about it - feel free.
It is pretty scary.:eek:An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
I married at 17 to the same man and been together 25 years. Our son is 19.Oldernotwiser wrote: »He started uni at 16?!
How can you have been married to your OH for 25 years and yet have been a single parent of a child who's now 19?
"Yes it is hell our marriage
Don't ask me why I stayed 25 years"
"The only happy time I have had is when I had time alone but I had our son and it was hard being a single parent but didn't want to leave him either so stayed."
Apologies if I've misunderstood but this doesn't make sense.
Yes they can start at 16 up here.
He was born in February
I hope that clears it up:DAn average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
Things have been sorted and we are going to look after his savings till he buys a house. I might put his allowance into the savings but not for him to access.
He has moved out and looking for work.
I feel I have had to be harsh but I have taken this crap for too long and it's not good for him either.
My OH sorted it out earlier and even his mates were in support.
Many thanks to you all for your support - it has really helped keep me strong:)
Just need to get this place sold now!An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
Personally I think you have to be cruel to be kind, my mum is going through a similar situation with my younger brother who refuses to even get out of bed at the moment so she gives him no money, cooks no food eventually he will get fed up and go and get a job or start college or something, the same with your son, take away all his priviledges and he will soon buck up his ideas. trust me.0
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Glad everything sorted itself out!
I am ok with everything now thanks cc. In a new fantastic marriage, v abuse from whatever angle is a horrible thing.
I am so pleased things are on the up for you0
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