Advice...First date.

totheleft

Another thread on a guy unfortunately .

Met a guy randomly 2 weeks ago.

Been texting and ringing each other everyday. Got on like a house on fire and could talk for ages. He was really sweet towards me and would always ask me if I was ok etc and what I'm doing etc

Had our first date today...my god was it different to what I expected.

I told him I'm shy around people I don't know so I won't be doing much talking.

He was nice, bought me food. However he kept telling me how awesome he is etc. He kept staring into my eyes etc which made me look away alot of the time. We had a laugh and a joke but he didn't compliment me but more complimented himself any chance he got. It was so surreal and he was totally different to the person I've been speaking on the phone.

Do I give him another date or do I realise he's really arrogant? But he's not arrogant on the phone.

Are first dates always as confusing as this! I thought I was going to walk away happy thinking 'yes, I've found someone I've clicked with' as we click on the phone.

gingin_2

I would give him another chance, he was probably nervous too and trying to impress you.

I'd go on a more relaxed date next time, it's hard not to make eye contact if you are eating opposite someone. Go for a walk, or to the cinema, or do an activity where you are not sat stale opposite someone and see if it helps. If you don't click for a second time then think about maybe moving on.

gibson123

Well if you don't know for sure, then you need to try again. if you don't you will always wonder. it's only a couple of hours out of your life.

scottishchick27

I would give him another chance, he might just be nervous and was trying to show what a great person he is.

HeadAboveWater

Brave girl! First dates are always scary!!

Personally, I think a first date (plus any dates for the next 20 years!) is all about finding out about each other. You talk about yourself. He talks about himself. Find out each others likes and dislikes. Similarities. Differences. Stuff like that. Means you'll have a fair idea if there's any point in going for a second date.

When I say you each talk about yourself, I don't mean brag. For me that is sooooooooo off-putting!! I don't want to be intimidated and feel I'll never be good enough for him! No thank you!

Then again, maybe he was nervous and just wanted to impress, especially if he didn't come across like that on the phone.

I'd try for a second date and then decide.

Good luck!!

Nan63

totheleft wrote: »

Another thread on a guy unfortunately .


I told him I'm shy around people I don't know so I won't be doing much talking.

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Perhaps he kept talking so you wouldn't feel uncomfortable with long silences. Perhaps he is an arrogant so and so. Perhaps he was as nervous as hell. Perhaps he might be the one! Who knows, but unless you go on second date you'll never know will you? Hope it all works out well for you x

rainbow_791

I would give him another chance, first dates can make people act totally different, it may have just been to hide how nervous he was.

You have got on well through texting/speaking on phone so I think a second date would be good and it may make him relax and not be so full of himself

Cat501

totheleft wrote: »

Another thread on a guy unfortunately .



He kept staring into my eyes etc which made me look away alot of the time.

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Have to say I find that REALLY uncomfortable too especially with someone I hardly know!! For some reason it makes me feel like they are insincere and that they are spinning me lines I know I'm not being fair though.

Giving him another chance sounds like the best thing to do though, especially as you've felt comfortable enough to chat on the phone with him, which I'd find really hard.

Good luck!!

DylanO

You told him you were too nervous to speak, and so he spoke more and you're annoyed? I should hope he has enough about himself to realise that.

j.e.j.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say go with your gut instinct. Do you find him attractive? If he's irritating you at this stage do you want to be getting his hopes up by agreeing to a second date?

I suppose in short, just ask yourself: would you be sorry if you didn't see him again?

totheleft

DylanO wrote: »

You told him you were too nervous to speak, and so he spoke more and you're annoyed? I should hope he has enough about himself to realise that.

I didn't mind him speaking more but what am I supposed to say to this....

"I get attention for my looks"
"My name is amazing"
"you'll struggle to find someone better than me"

And when he did say he gets attention for his looks, I joked and said so do I and he said, I find that hard to believe but immediately kept saying he was joking afterwards and felt stupid for saying that. He's seen my pictures and called me beautiful on the phone.

Thanks for the advice guys. Now I'm at home, it was a weird first date now I look back. Keep them coming:)