Advice...First date.

Sambucus_Nigra

So he's calling you blonde and stupid and has got you thinking 'it's all my fault' on the first date. Some future you have with this man!

You should tell him 'I've told my friends you are an arrogant insulting pr1ck' and see what response it gets...

totheleft

Pink_elephants_n_lemonade wrote: »

Did he ask you anything about yourself? Did he seem interested in what you had to say? Did he talk about his ex-girlfriend? Did it look as though he'd made an effort (appearance wise, etc)?

He did seem interested in what I had to say. His eyes were on me the whole time but I was being totally dumb and stupid at times. He didn't talk about his exes at all. He spoke about his family alot. It was just a coffee date so he looked casual.

totheleft

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

So he's calling you blonde and stupid and has got you thinking 'it's all my fault' on the first date. Some future you have with this man!

You should tell him 'I've told my friends you are an arrogant insulting pr1ck' and see what response it gets...

Ha it doesnt sound as bad as it written but I just said I was acting dumb on the date and he just laughed and yes you was. A lot of people think I act dumb and stupid when I'm nervous. He was honest. But I see where you are coming from 😞.

Sambucus_Nigra

I had a date with someone I really clicked with 'on the phone' and it was a complete disaster. Your gut is telling you something here; either get another date sorted and see how it goes or listen to it!

Carl31

Im not really sure what to expect, going on a date where you have been told one party isnt going to talk must be a nightmare

His conversation matter may have been odd, but maybe he had nothing else to talk about? Theres only so far a one way conversation can go

londonsurrey

totheleft wrote: »

he didn't answer me except agree with me that I was acting blonde and stupid

OMG. Ditch, ditch, ditch.

totheleft wrote: »

He then asked me what I've told my friends about the date.

He's got to be ruddy joking - does he think he's 8 years old, playing at playground chinese whispers and "what do other people think of me/us"?

This "man" is a load of problems, immature, rude, do you really want to spend the rest of your life sorting him out when he gets frustrated at the rest of the world, and sorting out the angry people he's interacted with, let alone have children anything like him?

Save yourself a lifetime of heartbreak. RUN.

Person_one

I wouldn't bother with this guy again.

However...

...its not at all fair to the other person to arrange a date and then announce when you get there "I won't be talking much".

The whole point of those early dates is to find out about each other, talking is pretty much essential, sooner or later. Dinner is a particularly awkward situation to be in with someone who won't talk and looks away all the time!

If you really are that shy, make the first few dates less conversation based, go to the cinema, go to a gig, go to a museum, until you feel comfortable enough with the person that you can look at them across a table and hold a normal conversation.

warehouse

A first date is difficult for a man as well. Then to be told you won't be talking? That's a complete nightmare scenario for any man, trust me.

Blokes aren't good at talking constantly, we soon run out of things to say unless we have some ideas coming back at us. I've been in a similar situation and after a while you say whatever comes into your head first, which for a bloke is usually cr*p, as you just found out.

You owe him another date and this time TALK.

I also like the other posters on here who are giving the bloke a hard time when all he did was turn up to talk to a statue for an hour, (no offence intended OP).

Person_one

warehouse wrote: »

You owe him another date and this time TALK.

I agree with the rest, but she doesn't 'owe' him anything. Its just life, sometimes you have bad dates.

warehouse

Person_one wrote: »

I agree with the rest, but she doesn't 'owe' him anything. Its just life, sometimes you have bad dates.

That's true, but if the OP acts like this on every first date then she'll be single for life. A 2nd date may just open her eyes to the joys of communicating.