Advice...First date.

pearl123

totheleft wrote: »

I didn't mind him speaking more but what am I supposed to say to this....

"I get attention for my looks"
"My name is amazing"
"you'll struggle to find someone better than me"

Maybe he was nervous too, which is perhaps why he was talking twaddle! Maybe, he is kicking himself for some of the stupid things he's said. I would give it another go - just in case.

You will be both more relaxed second time around.
Good luck

asparagus1968

pearl123 wrote: »

Maybe he was nervous too, which is perhaps why he was talking twaddle! Maybe, he is kicking himself for some of the stupid things he's said. I would give it another go - just in case.

You will be both more relaxed second time around.
Good luck

i think this is what you should do,or you'll forever be wondering.....

geoffky

Sack the dreamboy....He will be too busy washing his hair to go on dates...I would of said but you are wrong mate people have been lying to you....Do you want to date a "I am god" type of man..

DylanO

totheleft wrote: »

Isn't it always a good sign if he makes eye contact and only looks at you and no one else though?

He paid for my food and offered to buy me more coffee when I was done.

Omg I'm so confused

I wouldn't use the word 'confused'. Needy, clingy, desperate...

jenhug

hubby stood m up on our first date! I gave him a second chance and 17 years on here we are!

Pink_elephants_n_lemonade

Did he ask you anything about yourself? Did he seem interested in what you had to say? Did he talk about his ex-girlfriend? Did it look as though he'd made an effort (appearance wise, etc)?

VfM4meplse

totheleft wrote: »

Omg I'm so confused

Don't be! If you're instinct is usually spot on, then go with it.

Apart from that, can I ask why you would want to see someone who is obviously full of it? I've had "blind" daates where I've got on well with the guy beforehand, only to find that they annoyed the f 'n' l out of me in person. Usually because of over-inflated self-opinions, and that I didn't find them particularly masculine.

Pink_elephants_n_lemonade

He may have come across differently on the phone/texting because he wanted to impress you enough to meet him. He may have been telling you what you wanted to hear. The person you met may have been the 'real' him.

Would you have agreed to go on a date with him if he'd have texted you: "My name is amazing, I get lots of attention for my looks (I find it hard to believe that you do), & you'll never find anyone better than me". Probably not. I say follow your gut instincts

Sambucus_Nigra

Go with your gut instincts. Even if he was nervous and said those things out of a stressful situation, why hasn't he said 'oh dear, I was a complete idiot wasn't I, shall we try again?'?

totheleft

I agree with a lot of the above posts.

He did ask me about myself but because I was so nervous, I did say he should do all the talking. But to me, you can talk about yourself without sounding arrogant.

He's been texting me since but it's been weird. He's been asking me what I've thought of the date and I told him he seemed different on the phone as apposed to in person and it went okish. I asked him the same and he didn't answer me except agree with me that I was acting blonde and stupid (he hates blonde women and I'm not usually like that but nerves make me behave this way). He then asked me what I've told my friends about the date.

To him, he probably doesn't realise he's done anything wrong because he was doing all the talking as I was abit shy.

This was my first ever date where I didn't know the guy beforehand.

Im just abit gutted as he ticked all the boxes and never met someone who came across sweet. It could be my fault too. He hasn't rang me since so can't talk about it properly.