Friend Overstepping the Line... Thoughts?

raven83

Definitely very strange, if that was me i would be really taken aback and would probably feel a bit uneasy, i think i would feel a bit different if it was a best friend who i saw reguarly and i was close with and with who my kids was close to, but for someone i hadn't seen in years that is an odd thing to do. Is this tattoo new or is it something she had a while ago?

Wellyboots6

Sounds like she is just documenting people who mean a lot to her, and that includes your family. Be flattered (and slightly weirded out!).

If you value her as a friend then now would be a good time to arrange to meet up so you can view her latest artwork, and she can meet her muse!

If you are not that bothered about keeping in touch with her then you could just let things fade out.

She might be giving herself permanent reminders of people she cares about, as people can so easily be taken from you (as with her mums death). It might be weird to other people but for her it obviously makes sense.

mummyroysof3

got to say i think its weird to have other peoples kids names as a tattoo..i personally wouldnt even have my neices and nephews.

if you dont see her much anyway i would try to forget about it...its her that people will think is strange not you

fluffnutter

KitKat00 wrote: »

Its my opinion and there is no need to ridicule me for it

I'm certainly not. I'd feel it was incredibly intrusive if someone tattooed my baby's name all over themselves. (And that includes my husband ). I wouldn't like it one bit.

However, just to reiterate - someone still doesn't need your permission regardless of how odd it appears. I think that's why you're getting the comments, not because of your general sentiment.

OP, your friend sounds a little lonely and jealous perhaps? It seems she's living vicariously through you because her own life is a little empty. TBH, I'd find it way too much if my friend did this but then I'm a very introverted person. I'm actually toying with the idea of not mentioning to anyone that I've had a baby (mine's due in a few weeks). Don't think I can cope with the phone calls and visits. Not sure how realistic that is though...

Sambucus_Nigra

KitKat00 wrote: »

Its my opinion and there is no need to ridicule me for it

I'm sure - but saying that someone needs permission before having a tattoo from the parent of the subject of the 'objet d'art' is ludicrous. Otherwise, Elvis' mom would indeed never get off the phone.

KitKat00

Lucky she's not around much then. Do you not think it is at least considerate to contact the parent let them know? They are the parent after all and responsible for them. Nowadays you need permission from parents to photograph children at events, why not the same for a tattoo on someone else's body that isn't the parent?

nickyhutch

KitKat00 wrote: »

That would actually creep me out. You have to ask her what she's doing with that. Tell her that she needs permission to do that as she is not his mother

She doesn't, though, does she?

gingin_2

It gave me visions of the Alan Partridge tattoo incident (about 2 mins in if you don't want to watch it all).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l76u8Z5Ic2U

Glory be!

fluffnutter

KitKat00 wrote: »

Lucky she's not around much then. Do you not think it is at least considerate to contact the parent let them know? They are the parent after all and responsible for them. Nowadays you need permission from parents to photograph children at events, why not the same for a tattoo on someone else's body that isn't the parent?

No, you don't.

LandyAndy

KitKat00 wrote: »

Its my opinion and there is no need to ridicule me for it

No one is ridiculing you for your opinion.

I was ridiculing your assertion.