Friend Overstepping the Line... Thoughts?

londonsurrey

The fact that she has other names on her makes it less focused on just your son.

I'd lay good money on the fact that the girl doesn't keep a diary.

I'm also guessing that if she found a long lost brother who had been adopted, it wouldn't be long before his name appeared on her skin.

She isn't sending unexpected letters, gifts, phone calls. Unless you hear that she's been stalking the other names on her skin, I wouldn't worry.

The weird bit was her calling your little boy her nephew. You didn't object, so she simply carried on treating him in the same way as the rest of her treasured people, and that includes etching his name on her.

Actually, from her point of view, to exclude him from her name collection would probably be her equivalent of a snub. She's not standard issue, but you knew that anyway, and has been harmless for two decades.

thorsoak

Personally, I HATE tattoos (even though DS1, DD & DS2 and DDIL1 all have them - but it would seem that your friend appears to have an ink addiction, to have trails of names imprinted all over her body...

My advice - ignore it! You don't see her all that often now - just tell her that you find it wierd and leave it at that - it's not as if she is trying to abduct your son!

You don't seem to have the same contact with her as you once had - just let it die a natural death - maybe blocking facebook would be a start.

KitKat00

LandyAndy wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Are you for real?

If I had a child I wouldn't want their details on someone else's body without my say so. I wouldn't think of marking myself with my friends son's names and date of births, I have been sent their baby pics already, that's enough

balletshoes

FatVonD wrote: »

I was going to ask if she had other tattoos and now I see you've said she does it doesn't sound so odd. If she's heavily into getting herself inked she may have just wanted a portrait and your son is the closest child she currently has to her. I'd probably be livid myself if it was my son but if it really bothers you then just lose touch again and there's someone walking around with a passable likeness of your son on her calk that you never have to see.

I didn't see any mention of a portrait? Just the name and date of birth.

balletshoes

KitKat00 wrote: »

If I had a child I wouldn't want their details on someone else's body without my say so.

but thats not the same as "needing permission".


I wouldn't think of marking myself with my friends son's names and date of births, I have been sent their baby pics already, that's enough

and thats fine, thats you - thats clearly not the way the OP's friend feels about it though.

fluffnutter

KitKat00 wrote: »

If I had a child I wouldn't want their details on someone else's body without my say so. I wouldn't think of marking myself with my friends son's names and date of births, I have been sent their baby pics already, that's enough

No of course not. Who would? But I think Andy's point is that you don't need anyone's permission to tattoo whatever you like on your body. If that's your friends' kids' names then that's still up to you (however odd).

KitKat00

I know she's already done it but if its someone's else's kids, it would be considerate to let them know that's what you intend on doing. And if one of my friends said she would do that about mine, I should be the one to say yes or no

londonsurrey

The point at which I'd actually object is if she included contact details, National Insurance number, etc.

At the moment, to strangers, it's simply a fairly anonymous name/child unless they tried looking it up in a register.

Sambucus_Nigra

KitKat00 wrote: »

I know she's already done it but if its someone's else's kids, it would be considerate to let them know that's what you intend on doing. And if one of my friends said she would do that about mine, I should be the one to say yes or no

I've heard Elvis' mom never gets off the phone.

KitKat00

Its my opinion and there is no need to ridicule me for it