partners phone never leaves his side

jellyhead

Gingham_R wrote: »

I appreciate that you want to know the time and therefore carry the phone everywhere, but taking the phone to the loo and never putting it down seems a bit unusual?

Maybe he plays angry birds while having a poo

My phone is in my jeans pocket and usually comes into the bathroom with me. I have my asthma inhaler in my other pocket. I'm clumsy, and it takes me so long to root around in my bog, undo the zip etc. to find my phone that it will have stopped ringing by the time I get to it, and that's if I hear it.

My phone is small though, and I don't think it does facebook, apps etc. - people nowadays seem to have massive screens and their phones are more like computers - so if it didn't fit into a pocket then I suppose it would be weird to deliberately pick it up to take it into the loo with you?

My husband's phone isn't pocket sized. He leaves it on a shelf.

jamespir

OMG hes having an AFFAIR!!!!!!!!!!! or maybe hes just afraid of losing it teenagers seem to have there smartphones clued to their hands

jellyhead

jellyhead wrote: »

Maybe he plays angry birds while having a poo

My phone is in my jeans pocket and usually comes into the bathroom with me. I have my asthma inhaler in my other pocket. I'm clumsy, and it takes me so long to root around in my bog, undo the zip etc. to find my phone that it will have stopped ringing by the time I get to it, and that's if I hear it.

My phone is small though, and I don't think it does facebook, apps etc. - people nowadays seem to have massive screens and their phones are more like computers - so if it didn't fit into a pocket then I suppose it would be weird to deliberately pick it up to take it into the loo with you?

My husband's phone isn't pocket sized. He leaves it on a shelf.

I meant bag, of course! :eek::rotfl:

maybebaybe

But all of this said I am glad I posted and asked because I wanted to know if others are this attached to their phones and it seems some are, so maybe fingers crossed it is all normal .

maybe I should just take a deep breath and let him get him on with his love affair with his phone lol

antonia1

My OH also keeps his phone with him all the time. He has a passcode on it, and often walks in to another room when it starts to ring, so I never know who is calling. When we split up for a couple of months he did start seeing someone else and won't talk to me about her.

This all sounds really suspicious, right? But there are really simple explanations for these things:

• he owns his own business and has to keep his phone on him all the time in case his employees need to contact him (similarly I know people that might need to be contacted by elderly parents / grandparents or by childminders)
• he doesn't want anyone to be able to read emails regarding his business if the phone is lost / stolen and so keeps it passcode protected (lots and lots of people do this)
• he knows I find it rude when he's on the phone in the same room as me - much better manners to go in to the other room where I'm not disturbed by conversations about steel
• we weren't together when he was seeing the other girl - he doesn't like to even think about it now we're back together, much less talk about it (tbh, I would have gone on dates too if I'd met anyone I liked)

The point I'm trying to make is that all this is circumstantial, and could easily have a simple explanation. I don't care about my OH's phone habit because I trust him. I'd also break up with someone I didn't trust, not start keeping tabs on them because needing to invade someone's privacy is just not healthy.

maybebaybe

antonia1 wrote: »

My OH also keeps his phone with him all the time. He has a passcode on it, and often walks in to another room when it starts to ring, so I never know who is calling. When we split up for a couple of months he did start seeing someone else and won't talk to me about her.

This all sounds really suspicious, right? But there are really simple explanations for these things:

• he owns his own business and has to keep his phone on him all the time in case his employees need to contact him (similarly I know people that might need to be contacted by elderly parents / grandparents or by childminders)
• he doesn't want anyone to be able to read emails regarding his business if the phone is lost / stolen and so keeps it passcode protected (lots and lots of people do this)
• he knows I find it rude when he's on the phone in the same room as me - much better manners to go in to the other room where I'm not disturbed by conversations about steel
• we weren't together when he was seeing the other girl - he doesn't like to even think about it now we're back together, much less talk about it (tbh, I would have gone on dates too if I'd met anyone I liked)

The point I'm trying to make is that all this is circumstantial, and could easily have a simple explanation. I don't care about my OH's phone habit because I trust him. I'd also break up with someone I didn't trust, not start keeping tabs on them because needing to invade someone's privacy is just not healthy.

thanks for the above it helps to have different perspectives, I really do want to trust him again, its hard when the trust has been broken on more than one occasion !! But I want to be in that place of 100% trust. So maybe by just taking a deep breath and ignoring all this I can get there !!

Welshwoofs

1. Taking your mobile with you to the loo every single time is unusual. But only you know whether it's a case of 'it was already in his pocket' or 'he goes out of his way to take his phone everywhere with him'

2. Reacting to questions about that with anger is typical defensive behaviour by someone who has something to hide. The philosophy is that you act so outraged that you a) frighten the other person away from asking more questions and b) make them feel guilty for asking in the first place.

Tropez

Welshwoofs wrote: »

1. Taking your mobile with you to the loo every single time is unusual. But only you know whether it's a case of 'it was already in his pocket' or 'he goes out of his way to take his phone everywhere with him'

2. Reacting to questions about that with anger is typical defensive behaviour by someone who has something to hide. The philosophy is that you act so outraged that you a) frighten the other person away from asking more questions and b) make them feel guilty for asking in the first place.

By the sound of it though he is being asked repeatedly and even someone with nothing to hide would become angered at constant questions such as "Who's texting you?" particularly if they have made it clear they feel this is a private matter.

As for the phone in the loo debate, I take mine to the loo because it is in my pocket. Sometimes I use it on the loo, sometimes I don't. I don't let it out of my sight though because I have a tendency to leave it on silent and forget where I've left the damn thing.

Hermia

Gingham_R wrote: »

I suspect that the more someone tried to hide something from me the more I'd be curious about it.

And the more someone expressed curiosity about something the more secretive I'd get so we'd make a great pair!

I am very private so I really don't like people looking at my phone and computer. I also do have my phone at me at all times.

maybebaybe

Tropez wrote: »

By the sound of it though he is being asked repeatedly and even someone with nothing to hide would become angered at constant questions such as "Who's texting you?" particularly if they have made it clear they feel this is a private matter.

As for the phone in the loo debate, I take mine to the loo because it is in my pocket. Sometimes I use it on the loo, sometimes I don't. I don't let it out of my sight though because I have a tendency to leave it on silent and forget where I've left the damn thing.

Not asked all the time at all in fact twice in the last 7 months once because something was def off and the second time couple of weeks ago when he got a really late text.