partners phone never leaves his side

Errata

In that case I feel very sorry for you, because he behaves like a four year old. But it's your decision as to whether you spend the rest of your life with someone who behaves like a toddler.

FBaby

maybebaybe wrote: »

He says he dosnt like arguing of any kind so basically will not entertain any conversation that might turn into a disagreement and if I insist he states I am going on and the general reaction from him is to walk out of the house.

But thats just him I suppose !! but once again thanks to everyone.

Nah, not him, very common and I could have written exactly the same about my OH!! Saying that, I don't let get away with this behaviour. I've accepted that going on about something will not get him to open up, but if I'm not happy about something, I expect to be able to let him know and him to do something about it, if not immediately, in the near future.

In this specific scenario, if I raised concerns about my OH behaviour with his phone, I know that he would immediately give it to me to have a look for myself.... because he really does have nothing to hide.

FBaby

maybebaybe wrote: »

Believe me I have tried, I would usually start with could I have a chat with you, he says fine and basically more or less as soon as I start to talk and he realises its about a problem, he shuts down or goes on the defensive.

I can't help laughing... I am starting to wonder if my partner could be having a double life!!! Seriously, he sounds just like mine!! As I've said though, no way will that behaviour make me submissive. He can shut down, get away from me, he will hear what I have to say!! I've just learnt to adjust my tone of voice and say things only once. I've also learnt that I am unlikely to get any response there and then (which is what used to get me to lose my calm!), but that if I give him the time and space, it does take everything in and then always make an effort to do something about what I was wanting to talk to him about.

Don't let his behaviour smother you and make you not dare confronting him about anything. If your OH is like mine and he really loves you, even though he'll react defensively there and then, he will accept being challenged and wanting to make changes. Deep inside, my partner likes that I am a strong character and not afraid to confront him.

Del_Astra

Welshwoofs wrote: »

My ex did that - the only time his phone was out of his mitts was when it was on the bedside table on his side of the bed at night charging and I could never get my hands on it.

So I keylogged his computer instead.......

In my experience if you listen to your gut you *know* deep inside if something is amiss or not. If you have that feeling then you need to find out if you're on the money. The fact that you've asked him about his phone only twice and he's reacted angrily each time is a huge warning sign to me.

By the way - the really late night text he got on that occasion you asked him. Did he answer it there and then? Only when I get late night work-related texts I know they're going to be emergencies and I need to deal with them right away.

What did you use?

SueC_2

TheLillaJade wrote: »

Does he go to a specific place to talk on the phone? If he does have you thought about secret recording devices? My old housemate had one of those pens that record lectures. She accidentally left it running and recorded our other housemate cheating on her bf without realizing. Unfortunately he was with us trying to listen to the lecture when we heard the cheating. It was a pen like this: http://www.onlinespyshop.co.uk/product.php/1028/premium-pen-voice-recorder

To anyone who trusts their partner little enough to feel this is in anyway necessary, I implore you - save both of you the heartache, expense and aggravation - cut straight to the chase and walk away from the relationship now.

When you reach the point of spying on each other you really are on a very slippery slope to nowhere pleasant.

pinkclouds

maybebaybe wrote: »

I have no idea why he behaves this way with his phone, my question is does anyone else's partner act like this with their phone ?

I'm kinda hoping a lot do !!

I behave like that.

coolcait wrote: »

I use my phone as a watch. So it goes everywhere with me, including the loo. Especially the loo, in the mornings, when I need to be sure that I/we are not running late!

Same as above, I too use my phone as a watch. And as an alarm clock, a calendar, a camera and various other functions, which sometimes actually relate to it being a telephone! Asides from when it's plugged in to charge, it's always on me e.g. in a pocket. The only thing I don't do is voluntarily switch it off. I've also given up using a real camera and never bother to use my camcorder. My phone does all of these things and more and it's very important to me. Not as important as my laptop but it's more difficult to cart a laptop around with you all the time!