partners phone never leaves his side

janninew

Judi wrote: »

Sod the phone

Too right! I had to check though, just wondered what people did with them when they say that their mobiles never leave their sides!! :rotfl:

marleyboy

Judi wrote: »

Sod the phone

Using the charge port, wouldnt that be painful??? :D

System

marleyboy wrote: »

Using the charge port, wouldnt that be painful??? :D

As long as it doesnt draw blood

marleyboy

Judi wrote: »

As long as it doesnt draw blood

There's an App for that.:D:D

FBaby

marleyboy wrote: »

I have my phone glued to my side everywhere I go, including the bathroom. There is nothing dodgy about it, its a habit I always have and will continue to have,as well as a guarantee that should any important phone calls or messages arrive, I am at hand to see them straight away.

marleyboy wrote: »

I may or may not go into detail about it as it is generally just the odd banter, one liner or insignificant.

Gosh, is this what it has come down to for many people, needing their phone with them 24/24, ready to read messages the second they are received, even though these are generally insignificant messages! I vaguely recall that phones do ring for a few seconds before cutting off, so having it in one's pocket at all time is not an absolute necessity unless one is totally invalid.

It reminds me of my dad, the one and same dad who used to shout at me if I was on the family phone any longer than 10 minutes, who turning 60 became obsessed with his mobile phone, never leaving his side, texting non-stop, even in a middle of a conversation, hiding to talk...then again, he was indeed having an affair as we discovered later:)

Pupnik

He might be obsessed with Farmville and is too ashamed to tell you

good_vibes

Funny I had a ex that told me I was hiding the phone, made me really hide my phone due to him looking for something small to turn around on me. Along with the other 16 names I was "meant to be at it with". Where I ever found the time that lol, it was beyond me, it was all in his head. This then turned into to facebook friends and went on from there. Never had anything to hide, but was made to feel I had too. "Eggshells"
In the end he ran off and made me left feeling a bad person
Now with new partner who I leave the phone around all the time everywhere, because am now loved and feel safe.

Wickedkitten

janninew wrote: »

Its funny what you learn about others on this forum! I've never known anybody to take their phone to the loo with them! What if your a guy and having a wee, surely you can't pee and use your phone at the same time! My phone is always close by but I do leave it if for example I nip in the kitchen to make a brew, so does my husband, we just leave them on the arm on the sofa! I would find it strange if he started to carry his phone everywhere with him, but I know he's not that important that he needs to be contacable every second of every day!

Just out of interest what do people do with their phones when having sex?! Keeping checking it over their partners shoulder?!! :rotfl:

You know know mobiles have a vibrating function right :T

Not that I am saying in the slightest that I would go there.

SueC_2

I went through a period of closely guarding my phone. It was nothing to do with me being 'up to' something, but because a close friend of mine was going through a very tough time and was confiding some deeply personal things to me by text. Those messages were strictly between her and me, and she would have been mortified if she thought my OH had, or could have, seen them.

Being in a relationship with someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to share EVERYTHING with them.

coolcait

FatVonD wrote: »

...re the phone being under your pillow, the only way it could have got there is if it slipped from under his pillow and that's definitely not normal behaviour. The only reason for it to be there rather than the bedside table is so you can't take it in the night without waking him up.

Not necessarily.

My mobile is also my alarm clock - it goes under my pillow at night, so that it is in easy reach to be put on snooze; put on snooze; put on snooze; put on snooze

If it's on the bedside table, it makes the most godawful noise when the alarm goes off, and the phone vibrates.

It hasn't been left on the bedside table overnight since the time that the alarm went off; the phone said 'BRRRRREEEEEAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWW' as it vibrated against the surface of the bedside table; I made a 'what-the-hell-is-that-racket?!!' grab for it; dropped it; it bounced under the bed into the flylady-free no man's land which lives under there; I knocked my glasses off the bedside table as I rolled out of bed to look for the phone; couldn't see either phone or glasses; the alarm stopped; I found my glasses; put them on the bedside table; crawled into bed again; the alarm went 'bleep, bleep, tinkle' from under the bed....

It lived. But, according to OH, the whole spectacle was a bit like watching the Kraken awake.

Having an affair would have to be easier...

The OP has trust issues. Are they justified or not? That's something she has to work out with her partner.

How does she deal with those trust issues? That's something she has to work out for herself.

Personally, I don't particularly buy into the idea that the only solution is for her partner to make his phone available to her. When does that stop? The first time she finds that the text was innocent? The second time? The thirtieth time? Never?

The phone is not the problem here. The trust issues are the problem.