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Partner wants me to pay all the rent?

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  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    zagfles wrote: »
    What isn't? An unmarried step-parent can just walk out any time they want with no impunity whatsoever. So exactly what is "not fair to the children"?

    What is not fair is that many single parents and potential step-parents can't afford to move in together, or would find it very difficult financially. As a result millions of kids grow up with no Dad.

    But we're getting a bit off the point....

    Way off the point, I suspect you have a bit of an axe to grind there. ;)

    Its not fair to the children precisely because of your first point, you want to avoid that at all lengths.
  • zagfles
    zagfles Posts: 21,548 Forumite
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    shegirl wrote: »
    You need to be incredibly sure when you have kids.No child needs other adults coming in and out like that,it's not right.
    Instead they never come in:( Is that better?
  • FATBALLZ
    FATBALLZ Posts: 5,146 Forumite
    You can do better.
  • shegirl
    shegirl Posts: 10,107 Forumite
    zagfles wrote: »
    What isn't? An unmarried step-parent can just walk out any time they want with no impunity whatsoever. So exactly what is "not fair to the children"?

    What is not fair is that many single parents and potential step-parents can't afford to move in together, or would find it very difficult financially. As a result millions of kids grow up with no Dad.

    But we're getting a bit off the point....

    And potentially having lots of different 'dads' throughout their childhood would be good would it?

    Things are different when their are children involved and you have to be more careful.
    If women are birds and freedom is flight are trapped women Dodos?
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    SnowBoarder wrote: »
    Expensive offroading hobby toys!
    I have told him that I won't ever have a joint account with him as I am building my credit rating and his !!!! one will affect mine (I THINK that is true). One good thing is that he KNOWS he is gonna have to pull his socks up which is making him think - slow progress? :D


    Here's some coffee my dear, wake up and smell it!

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  • SnowBoarder_2
    SnowBoarder_2 Posts: 18 Forumite
    shegirl wrote: »
    I think you know what you should do,don't you!

    To a point yes, but should you sacrifice your lover/partner over money? :o
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    SnowBoarder wrote: »
    To a point yes, but should you sacrifice your lover/partner over money? :o


    Money isn't the real issue, its just the thing that's exposing the real issues.

    He's irresponsible, childish and selfish, from what you've told us.
  • zagfles
    zagfles Posts: 21,548 Forumite
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    shegirl wrote: »
    And potentially having lots of different 'dads' throughout their childhood would be good would it?

    Things are different when their are children involved and you have to be more careful.
    So the answers to the OP would be totally different if she had a child? :rotfl:
  • FATBALLZ
    FATBALLZ Posts: 5,146 Forumite
    SnowBoarder wrote: »
    To a point yes, but should you sacrifice your lover/partner over money? :o

    Apparently your partner isn't willing to sacrifice any of his money for his lover/partner.
  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    SnowBoarder wrote: »
    To a point yes, but should you sacrifice your lover/partner over money? :o

    Yes because you are not happy now never mind when you're working your b*m off to subsidise his lifestyle.
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
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