Partner wants me to pay all the rent?

SnowBoarder_2

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Are his 'spends' things like car finance, insurance, fuel to work etc and £150 is what he has left for himself at the end of the month or is £600 for nights out and the likes that he considers he 'needs'?

Yep that stuff (not nights out) and toys

Person_one

Hot and cooks?

Will that last till you're 90 when the rest is so below par?

74jax

My OH earns well over double what I earn and pays the majority of bills. We half food and go 50/50 on holidays, days out etc.

If he didn't pay what he does we couldn't live together.

I think the right answer is one you BOTH agree on, whoever pays what shouldn't matter if you're both in agreement.

SnowBoarder_2

lindsaygalaxy wrote: »

Hahahahahahaha. This has disaster written all over it and I hate to say it but you will be the one crying at the end. I actually can't believe you are considering it! If he wants to move in with you, go by percentages of income. Though have to say, you are being taken for a ride and being more like his mum than partner.

Yep and this is what I am very wary of, even if we did move on this we wouldn't do it for a few months then and hey - he may win the lotto by then and dump me! :j

shegirl

SnowBoarder wrote: »

LOL! He is REALLY daft with money, he will owe people (i.e. garage & me) money and instead of paying will go spend £300 on toys.
I don't understand that mentality AT ALL but it's all good for him.

He is uber hot and cooks though! LOL!

Seriously though, I earn 2ish times more than him I will put in 2ish times more into the pot, but I'm not gonna pay £1200 while he pays £150 - F**k that!

Being hot and able to cook wouldn't make me like him any more tbh:rotfl:

If he's that bad with owing people money and that selfish then I would be running.But that's me!

What kind of 'toys' does he buy?

My ex used to owe the garage he worked at money due to debts that nobody can understand (god knows where he got them -he lived with his mother paying £30 a week for christ sake,and a little money to me and our son)and pay them off months later.He's a total prat too:rotfl:

SnowBoarder_2

74jax wrote: »

My OH earns well over double what I earn and pays the majority of bills. We half food and go 50/50 on holidays, days out etc.

If he didn't pay what he does we couldn't live together.

I think the right answer is one you BOTH agree on, whoever pays what shouldn't matter if you're both in agreement.

Well said :beer:

zagfles

Person_one wrote: »

Not really, its not fair to the children.

What isn't? An unmarried step-parent can just walk out any time they want with no impunity whatsoever. So exactly what is "not fair to the children"?

What is not fair is that many single parents and potential step-parents can't afford to move in together, or would find it very difficult financially. As a result millions of kids grow up with no Dad.

But we're getting a bit off the point....

BitterAndTwisted

Just date him and nothing else if he's that interesting. He's mentally and emotionally compromised. Living with his parents at 38! Run, run, RUN!

shegirl

SnowBoarder wrote: »

Yep and this is what I am very wary of, even if we did move on this we wouldn't do it for a few months then and hey - he may win the lotto by then and dump me! :j

I think you know what you should do,don't you!

SnowBoarder_2

shegirl wrote: »

Being hot and able to cook wouldn't make me like him any more tbh:rotfl:

If he's that bad with owing people money and that selfish then I would be running.But that's me!

What kind of 'toys' does he buy?

My ex used to owe the garage he worked at money due to debts that nobody can understand (god knows where he got them -he lived with his mother paying £30 a week for christ sake,and a little money to me and our son)and pay them off months later.He's a total prat too:rotfl:

Expensive offroading hobby toys!
I have told him that I won't ever have a joint account with him as I am building my credit rating and his !!!! one will affect mine (I THINK that is true). One good thing is that he KNOWS he is gonna have to pull his socks up which is making him think - slow progress?