Partner wants me to pay all the rent?

Person_one

HappyMJ wrote: »

It takes into account the fact the one partner may lose their job through no fault of their own. If their income then falls to zero how are they expected to continue paying 50% of all the bills.

Oh, you've met my ex?

When I lost my job he wanted to keep a tally of 'my half' of the bills so that I could pay him back when I got a job!

What a catch. :rotfl:

lostinrates

jd87 wrote: »

The thing I have found most shocking about this thread is the number of people who seem to be splitting their finances anything other than 50/50 with their partner.

Lots of people saying "I earn more so I pay more, it's not his/her fault that they earn less".

I earn less than my partner and we have never considered anything other than paying 50/50. We both made our own choices to end up in the positions we have, and it's entirely my fault that I earn less! I don't want to sponge off my partner.

Althoug i put a lot i. At the beginning, i now do not. For a fair few years i have been a non earner or a low earner, far from being a choice it was health impacted, only now is it choice to remain a low earner beause it suits us better.

There are many circumstances where a fifty fift split might not be appropriate in a commited relationship!

[Deleted User]

My OH earns a lot more than me and we split everything 50/50.

I can understand the argument of paying more than him based on income - which I think is very reasonable.

But I don't think that you should be paying for everything. The exception to this [for me] would be if you both had children and he was being a stay at home Dad, taking on the household and childcare responsibilities.

As it stands it looks like he's wanting you to fund a lifestyle for him that he cannot afford.

Wait until he is debt-free to move in together, when you are both in a financial situation to contribute.

If he cannot accept that then it sounds like he wants a free-ride, not to share his life with you!!

D9

zagfles

Well, the answers here are a complete contrast to the benefits board whenever anyone asks about moving in with a single parent :rotfl:

shegirl

Person_one wrote: »

Oh, you've met my ex?

When I lost my job he wanted to keep a tally of 'my half' of the bills so that I could pay him back when I got a job!

What a catch. :rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You must be totally lost and miserable without him:rotfl:

shegirl

zagfles wrote: »

Well, the answers here are a complete contrast to the benefits board whenever anyone asks about moving in with a single parent :rotfl:

What are the replies like on there?

GobbledyGook

zagfles wrote: »

Well, the answers here are a complete contrast to the benefits board whenever anyone asks about moving in with a single parent :rotfl:

I think there's a huge difference in moving in with someone knowing you are going to have a huge impact on their finances and a single working man only 'having' £150 a month to contribute to a home because of debts and 'spends'. In the first you know what you are getting into, this case seems to have so many questions around it.


Sometimes a situation where one party contributes far, far less is acceptable. When I first moved in with my ex I contributed nothing because of the circumstances. The key was though that he was happy with it and I was ok with it. I was happier once I found a job and could contribute a little bit, but it was still massively less than his contribution. Both parties need to be happy with it and, imo, there needs to be a reason for it.

SnowBoarder_2

FBaby wrote: »

Do you know the extent of his debts? If he doesn't pay rent and bills, how can he be left with only £150? Is it a case that he wastes his money away every month, or the size of his debts is crippling, or both (most likely!). Whatever it is, it sounds worrying, especially if he shows no sign of concern.

Are you sure you want to move in with him? Money matters are very important in a relationship, not just who pays the bills, but making plans and savings for them, who pays for what when going out, who pays for unexpected bills...

Income is about £950 per month, debt is long term and approx £220, he wants £600 spends...

Steel_2

He wants to spend £600 on himself and stiff you for the rent!

What a joker!

Tell him to grow up and jog on! You're not his mother.

If he has £600 to spend he should be damn well putting that towards his debt and get it paid off faster.

Don't let love cloud your judgement on this one. He needs to grow up and live in the real world.

CH27

SnowBoarder wrote: »

Income is about £950 per month, debt is long term and approx £220, he wants £600 spends...

Cheeky monkey.
I'd tell him to sling his hook.