Partner wants me to pay all the rent?

zagfles

shegirl wrote: »

What are the replies like on there?

Basically "you're a couple you should pool all your money regardless of who earns it". And usually in a very judgemental way.

An example: https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3910537

Person_one

SnowBoarder wrote: »

Income is about £950 per month, debt is long term and approx £220, he wants £600 spends...

Ah, well then, er, yeah.

Very few adults have £600 spends every month, I would have thought.

He's telling you he's not grown up enough to move in with a partner with all the responsibilities that entails.

I'd probably call it a day, but if you don't want to then I'd tell him you won't move in with him until he's lived independently for a year and not got deeper into debt. He'll need that experience to wake up and grow up a bit.

shegirl

SnowBoarder wrote: »

Income is about £950 per month, debt is long term and approx £220, he wants £600 spends...

He's an idiot!

Send him packing - imagine what your future would be like with him being such a selfish prat.

Person_one

zagfles wrote: »

Basically "you're a couple you should pool all your money regardless of who earns it". And usually in a very judgemental way.

An example: https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3910537

Well its different, isn't it?

You shouldn't be moving into a house with children unless you're willing and ready to be a family, its not like two single people having a trial run!

balletshoes

he needs to rent his own place and manage on his own money, thats the only way he's going to realise how much it actually costs to run a home.
£600 spends per month out of a monthly income of £950 is a serious amount of "pocket money" - its 2/3 of his earnings fgs! Just out of interest, you could work out what 2/3rd of your earnings are, and set that aside for your spends. With your third and his third, do you have enough to cover all the household bills you'll have together? If not, then he needs to reconsider his pocket money amount.

BitterAndTwisted

Personally, I think there's a world of difference between a married couple who have made a public life-long commitment to each other contributing a percentage of their incomes and a pair who are just thinking of setting up home together for the first time.

This bloke is either taking the pee or hoping that as he says he can't contribute a fair percentage the other OP will either agree to pay for everything (foolish) or not move in with him at all (lucky escape).

I wouldn't rent a property with loser however. Not unless I was willing to accept that any money he came up with in the beginning he would fail to pay later on down the line. I reckon that's pretty guaranteed.


£600 a month personal spendies when he's supposed to be paying off debts? He's a kid. Nave nothing to do with him!

shegirl

How old is this guy,anyway?

SnowBoarder_2

Steel wrote: »

He wants to spend £600 on himself and stiff you for the rent!

What a joker!

Tell him to grow up and jog on! You're not his mother.

If he has £600 to spend he should be damn well putting that towards his debt and get it paid off faster.

Don't let love cloud your judgement on this one. He needs to grow up and live in the real world.

He can't pay the debt off faster but he could certainly take £400 a month for spends and give me £350 a month towards housey stuff, that would be far easier to swallow...

gibson123

Is he incredibly sexy? Willing to do all the housework in the buff? Meet you at the door with a big kiss, perfectly chilled glass of wine and then serve you a beautifully cooked meal, followed by a foot rub? Oh ok then.... however if he comes with a beer belly, dirty washing and lots of debts, he can take a hike....

SnowBoarder_2

shegirl wrote: »

How old is this guy,anyway?

38.
I know, I know..