Partner wants me to pay all the rent?

SnowBoarder_2

My partner and I are talking about getting a place together. I would like to go into it 50/50 but I do earn more than him so would be happy to pay more. BUT, he says he has about £150 ish each payday once he has finished paying a couple of debts, and his spending money to put into a place. I am guessing he wants me to pay the rest! :mad: I earn just over twice what he does and I am happy to put in just over twice what he puts in but other than that - is he taking the p**s? The prices around here are (roughly) £1100 for a £750 house (inc bills) -with food etc too the cost of running the house will be approx £1300 per month - and he is contributing £150? Please tell me that I am not being entirely unreasonable...

mandi

snowboarder wrote: »

is he taking the p**s?

yes . .

pull62

How is he affording to live currently, not many places around for £150 a month? Think you are not being unreasonable at all. If he is serious about getting a place together then he needs to show more commitment by putting in a larger share!
Think you need to talk through this again.

shop-to-drop

I'd say you will consider getting a place together when he has paid his debts. That way you start with a clean sheet. If he really wants to live with you for the right reasons it will give him motivation to clear them.

thorsoak

SnowBoarder wrote: »

My partner and I are talking about getting a place together. I would like to go into it 50/50 but I do earn more than him so would be happy to pay more. BUT, he says he has about £150 ish each payday once he has finished paying a couple of debts, and his spending money to put into a place. I am guessing he wants me to pay the rest! :mad: I earn just over twice what he does and I am happy to put in just over twice what he puts in but other than that - is he taking the p**s? The prices around here are (roughly) £1100 for a £750 house (inc bills) -with food etc too the cost of running the house will be approx £1300 per month - and he is contributing £150? Please tell me that I am not being entirely unreasonable...

Yes - he is taking the proverbial! His spending money should be the last thing on the list - not a priority.

He isn't mature enough yet to live in a mature relationship where each partner takes an equal (according to income) share.

balletshoes

you could consider splitting all the household bills by percentage of income ie if you earn 60% of the household income, you pay 60% of the bills. your partner, because he earns 40% of the household income, is then responsible for 40% of the household bills.

McKneff

Move in with him once his debts are paid.

Then go 50/50. It doesnt matter whether he earns less than you, why should you pay for half of his share.

Priority is rent, utilites, then debt.

And yes, he is taking the proverbial. He must think you are stupid,
I wouldnt want to live with someone who thought I was that stupid and who was going to blag off me

de1amo

i pay all the bills and mortgage etc and in return my wife looks after me and our daughter. we both work and i accept that i foot the bill for the care my wife gives us

SnowBoarder_2

Re the 50/50 arguement - I suggested this but he said it wasn't fair because I earned more. He knows that I could cover the whole cost myself but I don't want to enter into this with him living off me...I would end up hating him for it.

HappyMJ

I would be very suprised if this poll is anything other than 100% Yes.

Of course he is taking the pee.

You should pay 60% of the rent and all expenses each month and he should pay 40% of the rent and expenses each month.

These expenses should be rent, council tax, gas, electricity, water, contents insurance, any appliance rental agreements if necessary (don't buy anything if he doesn't have the money to go halves), telephone and broadband line rental, any garden maintenance, any property maintenance such as window cleaning and house cleaning.....and so on anything that is household related and not a personal expense (such as a personal loan or credit card payment) should be shared.

If he doesn't have enough left over for his own personal expenses then too bad. He'll have to find other ways of repaying them such as reducing the payments to them.

BJV

Sorry love is blind the the wallet ain't!

I do think that it will be difficult as you can afford to have a lifestyle much higher than his. Even when he has paid his debts. Think you need to decide if this is absolutely what you want. If it is then money should not matter.

When I met my hubby he was a student so he had next to nothing. I paid for nearly everything. Now he earns loads more than me. ( still not loads lol )