Angry..do you see this as ok?

fedupandstuff

We don't have children together. But we do both have children and we have a house and mortgage.

I don't feel it wasn't an apology, it felt like he was mocking me that i would feel insecure about what he sees as normal.

JustinCredibleGillespie

Has he ever sent you a text to tell you that his penis was erect recently?

If not, WHY NOT?

JCG

xx

Taadaa

Maybe you should tell him exactly how this has made you feel. If he can't understand it on any level, I would be tempted to ask him to ship out for a few days and have a good think about it from your perspective, not his own warped one where sending sexually suggestive texts to his colleagues is acceptable.

He should be taking you and your relationship seriously, not making you feel like this.

Edited to say and don't let him back until he has realised the error of his ways!

hazyjo

Demand to see his mobile phone bill. I think you have every right to see it. It's not you being paranoid, suspicious or sneaky.

That should be the one thing you ask for and the one thing that will save/break your relationship. Itemised calls, nothing more, nothing less.

See how often he's texting/ringing her, along with others. Then decide.

Most bills can be viewed/printed online.

Jx

spicyprawn

If this was some one elses post what would your advice be? If it was your daughter?

A family member started off with theses kind of texts and emails about 6 years ago and they're still doing it. The only reason there is still a partnership at all is because they have all the financial stuff together and it is 'easier' to stay together. Which is a bosswollocks excuse

londonsurrey

Codswallop is right. He knew that you wouldn't like it before you found out, but did it anyway.

Now he's saying that he'll stop it because you don't like it. Doh.

Stephb1986_2

Ok I'll be honest with you my step dad has a friend, they are hgv drivers. One day said friend was delivering an item to a office, he chatted up the receptionist and asked for her number, she complained to his company and he got sacked for sexual harrassment.

This is totally true. So if I was you I would be telling him to watch what he says in future to female colleagues.

Steph x

fedupandstuff

If my daughter had posted this.... or if his daughter had posted this i know both of our reactions would be the same

Gingham_R

fedupandstuff wrote: »

... it felt like he was mocking me that i would feel insecure about what he sees as normal.

I don't understand why he tried to hide it from you if he sees it as normal.

Is it normal? Is this how they talk to each other? Does she talk to him about her vagina?!

EndlessStruggle

Definitely get rid. Sorry to say this but it sounds to me like he is testing the waters with the woman to see if she was interested in sex with him, throwing a comment about a random stiff moment to see what her response was and if it wasn't her being interested he could just brush it aside or laugh it off as a joke.