Angry..do you see this as ok?

FatVonD

He may not have actually done anything yet but he wants to or at least he's happy to have another woman know he wants to.

He's a slimeball.

raven83

If it was the other way around and you had sent a text to a male work colleague to say your p**** was wet i bet he would be really peed'ed off!!! And why would you send such a message to someone??? Because you are hoping for a reply for them to ask why and is it because you are feeling fruity thinking about what they could be doing together.

IMO men that send these sort of messages to girls are doing so because they are interested in them sexually and are wanting a response, even if it is just at the flirting stage it is still inappropriate for him to send such messages as he shouldnt be discussing things like that other than with you!


If that was me i would be furious and kick his backside out, stiff c*** and all!!!

osian

I'd say it crosses the line, it doesn't seem like banter. I've known some fairly flirty men and I don't think that any of them would say anything like that. It seems more 'intentional' than just fun.

How long have you been with your boyfriend? Do you have kids or a house together? If it's easy to walk away now with no baggage, I would do it asap.

fedupandstuff

I am trying to keep my posts to my feelings and not speculate. He does not suddenly work late or anything like that. We have a good sex life. We do not lack in that department. when he doesn't have to work we spend our free time together. He works hard to look after us all financially whilst i take care of the children the house and him.

My hurt stems from this text and if he sees it as ok to talk about that with a female work person.
I feel really upset. worse that he thinks i'm overreacting and embarrassing.
I know he would not cheat on me with her as some have suggested.

I really appreciate the different points of views. Thank you.

Taadaa

Ask him what he hoped to acheive by sending it. What the purpose of it was.

It doesn't matter what your sex life is like. It's not only sexually frustrated people that cheat.

He is making you feel bad so that he can carry on behaving like it scott free. He is the one who should feel embarrassed. Does this woman know he is in a relationship? Even if she isn't interested, she must wonder what sort of relationship it is, and what sort of person you are. His behaviour is making a mockery of it, and you.

fedupandstuff

He is the one who should feel embarrassed. Does this woman know he is in a relationship? Even if she isn't interested, she must wonder what sort of relationship it is, and what sort of person you are. His behaviour is making a mockery of it, and you.



That is exactly how i feel hurts that this just angers him even more

Gigervamp

It angers him because he's been caught out.

peachyprice

fedupandstuff wrote: »

I know he would not cheat on me with her as some have suggested.

Men send messages like that to women they are or want to have sex with. I think you are being extremely naive if you believe he hasn't/won't cheat with this woman and are in for a big shock.

It's NOT a normal thing to send to a work colleage you are not having a relationship with.

He's secretive about work emails and put passwords on things because he has something to hide. This is classic cheating behaviour.

lostinrates

I don't think it matters whether he is actually having an affair with this colleague but that hehas over stepped a boundary, by a long way. Potentially he has put his job at risk, o chances of furthering his career, even if she does not complain she might gossip.....

andygb

fedupandstuff wrote: »

He is the one who should feel embarrassed. Does this woman know he is in a relationship? Even if she isn't interested, she must wonder what sort of relationship it is, and what sort of person you are. His behaviour is making a mockery of it, and you.

The problem is, that if he is the kind of person to say these things to someone he works with, then he will not be the kind of person who is embarrassed easily. At the end of the day, he is your boyfriend, and although this may seem harsh, he probably does not see himself having any obligation to you (just my view given the information). You would be better off getting someone more reliable and trustworthy.