Angry..do you see this as ok?

jovichick123

No, it's not right, it's not normal and yes, I would be annoyed if my OH was doing anything like this. I would say there are one of two things in play here.. Either your BF is/has/is planning to stray with this woman OR your BF is too immature/dumb/disrespectful to realise that this is not acceptable behaviour. Either way, I would be seriously thinking about re-evaluating the relationship.

peachyprice

fedupandstuff wrote: »

it wasn't a sexual comment towards her.

Of course it was! He told her he had a stiffy, it was hardly a comment about his health was it.

His comment had sexual connotations, simple as that. If she wasn't a willing recipient of information regarding the state of his c0ck it's sexual harrassment, if she was a willing recipient it's because she's interested in it.

VitaK

Trust your gut instinct. Sounds like he is mocking you with it.

sassyblue

fedupandstuff wrote: »

I've questioned how he interacts with females at work before. He laughs at me tells me not to be stupid as she is much older than him

Get out or dump him.

It's not normal.

mummyroysof3

dont think a man who has a OH should be mentioning his penis to any other woman other than a doctor for medical reasons tbh

FatVonD

Dump him. It's coming anyway and when it does you'll feel an idiot for not doing it sooner. Walk away with your self respect.

paddy's_mum

Do you know what's even more worrying - or at least, it ought to be worrying you?

He's the one doing the sending so he can't even 'explain things away' by saying that she is pursuing him and/or behaving in an inappropriate and embarrassing manner.

If you truly believe this is not a sexual comment, then I simply can't grasp why the opening word you chose for your thread is 'angry'.

babymoo

You know this is wrong and your boyfriend knows you are now onto him so is trying to joke it away or make you feel like you are the paranoid one. In actual fact I know from experience when they are doing that that they are actually doing something they know full well they shouldn't be doing and are just trying to get away with doing it whilst keeping you on side.

Do yourself a favour and either walk away or accept he is up to something and live with it, but questioning what you already know, questioning your gut instinct will send you insane over the coming weeks/months unless you listen to it.

Are you normally a jealous person? I know that when my gut instinct tells me to be jealous there is something to be jealous about as that is just not me.

Hugs hun x

rokchic

Hi, I am my girlfriends other half. Here is a males opionion: Basically he's on the pull, he is after sex. It obvious that something has already happened and it's possible that it's happened at work or at her house. Does he have random "I have to work late" or I'm having trouble getting home, I'm sorting out a lift"? He obviously knows this women has some attraction to him ( or sexual harrasment would come into play)....... If it is a long term relationship, you may have kids, married or mortgage etc and you just can leave here are a few things you can do to prove it. Going though his text messages will solve nothing. It will force him to be more sneaky. Keep and eye on his bank statements, money spent not on you will always show up. Check reciepts, maybe he might say he was at work but the reciept says hee was in a bar on the other side of town. Create another facebook account and watch his posts, add this other person on the fake account and check her photos. Basically you need proof, Im not say this message isnt enough, personally I'd be kicking him out the door with a black eye ( god that would be so funny if you did). Anyway, keep a very very close eye on him. Do random things. If he is going top be late from work. Go pick him up without him knowing, or take a takeaway meal for him as an excuse to turn up. If he is not there go home and wait for him. He will slip and you will be there when it happens, give him slap for me.

busiscoming2

Just save yourself heartache and get rid of him now. You are just storing up trouble for later. It isn't normal behaviour.