Angry..do you see this as ok?

paddy's_mum

MeganKate wrote: »

Really? you dont alow your OH to look at !!!!!!?? do you have sex with him 5 times a day to make up for that?

Honestly? Is that what modern manners have come DOWN to? A woman either 'services' a man, at his command, or else he is completely, understandably, free to stray!

What do people like you do when the woman is pregnant, unwell, and frankly, advised by doctors to abstain from sexual intercourse? 'Give over, woman .. it's my rights as a man to indulge in either marital rape or tasteless, disloyal, numbing 'tossing off' and you can lump it or like it, 'cos my libido and my pecker rule my life. I can't help it because I am so immature that I cannot use commonsense and make an informed, rational decision'.

MeganKate - I suggest that you have a few years in the real world before you come out with carp like that! What are you going to do when your own man decides that he's fed up dipping his wick into you five times a day for months and pursues some other receptacle instead?

If MeganKate's perception of the interaction between men and women today is the norm, no wonder there is such unhappiness in families today.

That rare thing - almost speechless! :rotfl:

beautiful_ravens

I wonder how men managed in the 100,000+ years before !!!!!! eh? Just a thought.

This text thing - worying. Sounds like hes testing the water with the recipient. I agree with the 'let me see your texts and emails' and a hearty chat.

Carl31

I had a similar issue with my oh. Im quite flirty and like to have a laugh with the ladies, thats all it is though, a bit of banter and a joke. I have calmed myself a bit now but admit i was in a similar situation at the start of my relationship.

Thing is, he probably just does it and gives it no other thought as its just his way of having fun, theres no malice involved. Ask him about it, but dont jump to the conclusion hes cheating without getting your facts straight

Lotus-eater

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Honestly? Is that what modern manners have come DOWN to? A woman either 'services' a man, at his command, or else he is completely, understandably, free to stray!

What do people like you do when the woman is pregnant, unwell, and frankly, advised by doctors to abstain from sexual intercourse? 'Give over, woman .. it's my rights as a man to indulge in either marital rape or tasteless, disloyal, numbing 'tossing off' and you can lump it or like it, 'cos my libido and my pecker rule my life. I can't help it because I am so immature that I cannot use commonsense and make an informed, rational decision'.

MeganKate - I suggest that you have a few years in the real world before you come out with carp like that! What are you going to do when your own man decides that he's fed up dipping his wick into you five times a day for months and pursues some other receptacle instead?

If MeganKate's perception of the interaction between men and women today is the norm, no wonder there is such unhappiness in families today.

That rare thing - almost speechless! :rotfl:

Well you have understood one thing, that men have a libido, so do women of course, but men's are often higher, it has been understood by armies the world over since time began. (not so much now)
So if men need some sexual relief, is it not better they do it using !!!!!! (like it or not, it's here) rather than find some other way of doing it?

It's not common sense, it's practical sense, if men need to whack off, they will, whether they use their imagination or !!!!!!, you can never stop that, no matter how much you want to.

That's the real world.......... "tossing off" isn't disloyal !!!!!!, it's a natural part of life, men have always done it and always will.

Why on earth would I think it's immature or irrational for a lady to pleasure herself, it's a personal right that we all have.

You may hate that men and women do it, but it's still there, has always been and will always be.

paddy's_mum

Lotus-eater wrote: »

You may hate that men and women do it, but it's still there, has always been and will always be.

I don't hate it and neither am I fool enough to expect that priests or prudes saying naughty-naughty is going to stop men and women having normal, healthy and instinctive urges.

What I am objecting to is the idea that if a man is denied a diet of !!!!!!, the woman in his life should be giving him sex - more frequently than his meals even! - in order to "make up for it" as though somehow, he has been wrongfully denied his fair share of the tea time chocolate cake.

That whole concept, and the way in which it was presented, comes across to me like an indulgent Mummy patting her spoiled little boy on the head and saying there-there.

Are most men really that uncivilised and out of control of their own behaviour that lusting after other women, in whatever fashion and no matter how much it hurts their life partner, has now become almost a right?

Lord help the woman with that kind of man when she becomes temporarily unavailable, for whatever reason. For the couple of weeks after childbirth, say, she can assume that he is off out getting his needs met elsewhere, can she?

The word Diddums doesn't begin to cover it!

determined_new_ms

I feel sad that my analogy sparkef a debste on the !!!!!! industry! My intention.was to highlight that whatever the op feels isn't acceptable to her is ok and she needs to be able to draw her lines nd in a respectful nd loving relationship partners should be able to have discussions around these issues to have a win win solution. No one should have to put up with their feelings nd wishes being dismissed nd being unhappy. However the debate did highlight my point that people feel very differently about the issue! Just as megankate would not be happy to live her life by my rules I wouldn.t want to live mine by hers. Both positions are 'right' different strokes for different folks!

Lotus-eater

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Are most men really that uncivilised and out of control of their own behaviour that lusting after other women, in whatever fashion and no matter how much it hurts their life partner, has now become almost a right?
Lord help the woman with that kind of man when she becomes temporarily unavailable, for whatever reason. For the couple of weeks after childbirth, say, she can assume that he is off out getting his needs met elsewhere, can she?

The word Diddums doesn't begin to cover it!

Well as long as she isn't like you, then he can just turn to !!!!!!, easy Of course if he is treated like a little boy like you are suggesting, not a grown up man with perfectly normal needs, then I don't know what would happen.

You keep saying things like it's uncivilised and being out of control, this is biology here, it's not something you can put trousers on and teach it to be polite.
Sexual urge is sexual urge, there's nothing you can do, short of taking pills, that can keep it down.

The best way to deal with this, is to keep people separate, if I married someone like you or DNM, I would be going up the wall very shortly I suspect and you would be thinking I was a sexual degenerate.
If you find a bloke that's happy with what you want, then that's fine, I just think for a lot of guys, either it would drive them up the wall, or they have some sort of a secret life.
That's of course when the ladies come on here and complain about their men doing !!!!!! in secret and how like little boys they are and isn't it disgusting. :rotfl: When they fail to realise, it's their actions that made them do it in secret in the first place. You see it on here all the time.

spicyprawn

determined_new_ms wrote: »

Both positions are 'right' different strokes for different folks!

no strokes for some folks

Dunroamin

Lotus-eater wrote: »

You keep saying things like it's uncivilised and being out of control, this is biology here, it's not something you can put trousers on and teach it to be polite.
Sexual urge is sexual urge, there's nothing you can do, short of taking pills, that can keep it down.

The best way to deal with this, is to keep people separate, if I married someone like you or DNM, I would be going up the wall very shortly I suspect and you would be thinking I was a sexual degenerate.
If you find a bloke that's happy with what you want, then that's fine, I just think for a lot of guys, either it would drive them up the wall, or they have some sort of a secret life..

Good grief, I thought that we'd got rid of the idea of men's ungovernable sexual urges in the last century!

determined_new_ms

:rotfl:

spicyprawn wrote: »

no strokes for some folks

lol no at least 5 strokes a day apparently!:rotfl: