My husband has committed Adultery

poker21

I went to see him at his work this morning.
I had asked my daughter to do a draft stating that he wishes to transfer the house over to me, so I wanted a signature, rather than putting a signature on it he did a scribble. I said to him don't treat me like an idiot that isn't your signature, i've known you long enough to know what you're signature looks like. He said he'll meet me tomorrow so I'll take another draft and see if he tries mucking me about again.
He also said to me that he is in love with 'K' and I should hurry up with the divorce. Yet he still denies that he's been in a relationship with her for longer than 2 weeks, although she had already told me in front of him. I don't understand why he's not riddled with guilt and how he can still be so arrogant

Mojisola

poker21 wrote: »

I had asked my daughter to do a draft stating that he wishes to transfer the house over to me, so I wanted a signature, rather than putting a signature on it he did a scribble. I said to him don't treat me like an idiot that isn't your signature, i've known you long enough to know what you're signature looks like. He said he'll meet me tomorrow so I'll take another draft and see if he tries mucking me about again.
He also said to me that he is in love with 'K' and I should hurry up with the divorce. Yet he still denies that he's been in a relationship with her for longer than 2 weeks, although she had already told me in front of him. I don't understand why he's not riddled with guilt and how he can still be so arrogant

Don't just get a signature - you need it signed and his name, address and date in block capitals in his writing.

Caroline_a

Could you get someone to witness his signature? Then if they sign to say they've witnessed it then it should be more binding.

zoesmummy_2006

poker21 wrote: »

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He also said to me that he is in love with 'K' and I should hurry up with the divorce.

Tell him if hes that keen for the divorce that he should divorce you and bear all the costs.

robpw2

poker21 wrote: »

I went to see him at his work this morning.
I had asked my daughter to do a draft stating that he wishes to transfer the house over to me, so I wanted a signature, rather than putting a signature on it he did a scribble. I said to him don't treat me like an idiot that isn't your signature, i've known you long enough to know what you're signature looks like. He said he'll meet me tomorrow so I'll take another draft and see if he tries mucking me about again.
He also said to me that he is in love with 'K' and I should hurry up with the divorce. Yet he still denies that he's been in a relationship with her for longer than 2 weeks, although she had already told me in front of him. I don't understand why he's not riddled with guilt and how he can still be so arrogant

i would advise you to tread carefully . becayse turning up at his works etc making demands could see you in trouble . whilst your getting him to sign over the house without witneses and a proper legally drafted document it could still mean later he can claim he was made tosign under duress because you turned up to his work making demands.
if he wants the divorce but he cannot apply for it yet because of time contraints , you can for adultery and so the powers in your hands - ultimately you need to do what you feel is best but don't not do it just to spite him and don't do it in haste as i said before you really need to seek some advice from a trained legal advisor .

booma_mitch

poker21 wrote: »

Hi booma_mitch
I PM'd you, not sure if it got sent, did you receive a message from me?

I haven't had a PM poker21 if you want to try and send it again?

Old_Git

you need to be civil to him until he signs the house back to you ,then you can tell him to do one .
Have you changed the locks on the doors yet .

booma_mitch

Old_Git wrote: »

you need to be civil to him until he signs the house back to you ,then you can tell him to do one .
Have you changed the locks on the doors yet .

You can't legally change the locks on a property which is owned in joint names. If she did, he would be within his rights to break in to enter the property.

Signing any document without both of you having full disclosure isn't really worth very much. No court would hold somebody to something that they signed without full financial disclosure and the opportunity of legal advice. Agreements such as these, whether witnessed, signed, dated or named, really have little sway in cases like these.

jumpingjackd

So sorry you are in this situation, it is so hurtful. Hope everything goes well for you. My DD has just found herself in the same situation and I feel so vey sad for her. Good wishes to you.

Pollycat

poker21 wrote: »

I went to see him at his work this morning.
I had asked my daughter to do a draft stating that he wishes to transfer the house over to me, so I wanted a signature, rather than putting a signature on it he did a scribble. I said to him don't treat me like an idiot that isn't your signature, i've known you long enough to know what you're signature looks like. He said he'll meet me tomorrow so I'll take another draft and see if he tries mucking me about again.
He also said to me that he is in love with 'K' and I should hurry up with the divorce. Yet he still denies that he's been in a relationship with her for longer than 2 weeks, although she had already told me in front of him. I don't understand why he's not riddled with guilt and how he can still be so arrogant

Would this really be seen as a valid document in a court of law?

I'm not saying it wouldn't, just asking if it would be.

You have an appointment with a solicitor next week.
I would suggest you leave him alone (for the reasons given in earlier posts) and start making a list of questions - be specific so you can get (if possible) 'yes' or 'no' answers.
Make discussing the house your first priority.