Finding geeky/nerdy girls for dating...

WelshBluebird

One thing I will say is don't limit yourself.
My ex was a bit of a geek. While my current gf really isn't.
Needless to say, it has worked out a lot better with my current gf

pixelation

As a geeky woman and now the mother of geeky daughters I am finding solace in the fact that there is good son-in-law material out there.
Clubs and social events plus geek and anime forums sound like a lot of fun.

Savvy_Sue

pixelation wrote: »

As a geeky woman and now the mother of geeky daughters I am finding solace in the fact that there is good son-in-law material out there.

And as a mother of boy geeks, I hope the OP will pass on all his successes, so that I don't give up hope ...

OptimusNemesis

All,

Thanks again for the replies and advice here - I can't believe the number of replies my little post has had! :-)

I'm going to a local anime group next week (was going to go this week but was unwell for a couple of days) which sounds like fun.

Somebody very kindly sent me a PM with some suggestions for online games that have a good social aspect to try - so I'm hoping to maybe install one and try it out this weekend.

I've joined a couple of sci-fi forums and am looking for some more specific ones to join too.

I'm also considering trying a pay dating site. I created a quick profile on eHarmony a couple of days ago and have been prodded by someone to upload a photo this morning, so I'm planning to hop on there tonight and upload my pics.

Is eHarmony a good pay site? Do any of the pay ones have any ability to distinguish between members that have paid (so are more likely to be active) from people who have just put something on there but not joined?

I just think someone who has actually paid to be on there is a bit more likely to be seriously looking.

- G

sallypalma

If it is any consolation, try being a 40 something female who is a SciFi geek, a Trekkie, adores ancient history and mythology, is a vocal atheist, has 2 giant old smelly hounds that are the love of my life and keeps pet rats ! I know it is a wonder I am still single :rotfl:

I think a lot of the previous suggestions makes lots of sense. I have been to a few SciFi/Conventions (much to the horror and embarrassment of my children ) and I have met some great people, not romantically but as friends so it was well worth doing. Even if you don't meet anyone, you get a day out and talk to people who don't think you are crazy if you want to discuss whether Michio Kaku's idea of an 11 dimension Multiverse is correct !

Good Luck

AllyS

Don't give up, keep going and look at people you may not normally look at. I met my OH on online dating, we were both looking for a bit of fun, lived 200 miles from one another and I have kids (he was looking for childless women) and we chatted (speed date online) and met up to go to cinema, he was visiting someone nearby, had a fantastic time, clicked straight away and the rest is history as they say

Also, don't dismiss people just by there profile, my OH is very geeky too and it probably looked profile wise that we have nothing in common, but I love gaming (infact we spend most evenings gaming together), Sci-fi, reading, only I am less geeky about technology, but I would never have put most of that on my profile - it isn't sexy for a girl to be into this sort of thing and we are trying to appeal to wider audience

big5

I met my husband through a Star Wars discussion forum 10 years ago - that's pretty geeky, right? :rotfl: Before we met in person, he went to a forum meet-up in London and was scared at just how uber-geeky some of the people were. Fortunately we are at the right level of geek for each other. :beer:

eleanor73

hazyjo wrote: »

Another one - without meaning to lump people in a certain category box - try 'real ale' pubs. The very geeky friends I have will only go to those sorts of pubs.

And the folk type festivals seems to attract a certain type. I went to Cropredy a few years ago and it was a complete contrast to Latitude that I'd been to the same year! A very different sort of crowd (obviously). Great fun!

Jx

I agree about pubs - although my local (real ale pub) is full of geeky men and not many geeky women (unless they are accompanying a geeky man!). DOn't just look for geeks. I am not a 'geek' but I am passionate about things like politics, cooking and the environment and often people don't expect that by looking at me. My boyfriend is a geek (Massive computer whizz) but couldn't care less about much else really (apart from me thank God). Opposites attract as they say!

Also have you tried Soulmates? It't the dating site attached to the Guardian and whatever you have to say about the paper's politics there are some clever and passionate people on there. It is paid though.

Chimpofdoom

Fellow geek here!

Although not a single one (not anymore), like yourself, I work in a job that meant I didn't get to socialise as much as I probably wanted to!

Admittedly I went down the internet dating site route too, all in all, I went on a lot of dates, but eventually met the one.. 3 years on the 31st of May, we're buying a place very soon (hopefully) and a ring has been made by a jeweller friend of mine (for the right moment/when I have the cash to pay him).

She's far from being a geek, so defo don't exclude the non geek ones!

Gloomendoom

How do you define a geek?



Oddly enough, my wife was a bit of a bespectacled geek when I first met her (at work.) She isn't now though.


I'm not complaining.