Finding geeky/nerdy girls for dating...

euronorris

Haha, so glad we're not the only ones. I forgot to mention the two work laptops that we often have at home too! Jeez, we could probably start our own IT service! Well, OH could, I mostly smile, nod and say 'yeah....but what buttons do I need to push!' lol

TheConways

Perhaps another perspective... My father is a geek and my mother is not (I'm more like my father, with a Physics degree and an interest history/politics... My mother loves clothes, make-up, and detests Star Trek - she is pretty good at fixing cars, mind). They've been together for 30 years.

I think the partnership works well because they balance each other strengths and interests. I think Dad would be very dull without Mum, and Mum needs Dad to anchor her!

In a similar way, I married a sports-loving linguist - Mr. Conway is nothing like me on paper, but we are a great match!

I definitely see the need to have simliar interests, but don't forget that opposites attract!

lostinrates

Although what you geeks' computer arrangements sound like my idea of hell it woud be handy to have someone about who new how to work stuff. We spend ages trying to get things to work. We have failed miserably with iplayer on the ipad even. And thats just the tip of the iceberg.

OptimusNemesis

TheConways wrote: »

Perhaps another perspective... My father is a geek and my mother is not (I'm more like my father, with a Physics degree and an interest history/politics... My mother loves clothes, make-up, and detests Star Trek - she is pretty good at fixing cars, mind). They've been together for 30 years.

I think the partnership works well because they balance each other strengths and interests. I think Dad would be very dull without Mum, and Mum needs Dad to anchor her!

In a similar way, I married a sports-loving linguist - Mr. Conway is nothing like me on paper, but we are a great match!

I definitely see the need to have simliar interests, but don't forget that opposites attract!

I'm not against the idea of meeting an 'opposite' but most women I've met seem to be put off by my interests and sometimes even my line of work (IT) which is a pity. :-(

- G

euronorris

lostinrates wrote: »

Although what you geeks' computer arrangements sound like my idea of hell it woud be handy to have someone about who new how to work stuff. We spend ages trying to get things to work. We have failed miserably with iplayer on the ipad even. And thats just the tip of the iceberg.

It is sooo handy. I really appreciate it. He resurrected my old laptop several times before I replaced it, which bought me extra time to get the money together for the replacement.

He often ends up playing IT helpdesk to family members too, even remotely which he secretly quite likes.

He does have a deep rooted hatred of all Apple products though! lol Not because they are bad, as such. He just doesn't like the way that they lock you in - you can't change the operating systems on them, and often, once you have one product, you can only use other Apple products with them.

1940sGal

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

I'm not against the idea of meeting an 'opposite' but most women I've met seem to be put off by my interests and sometimes even my line of work (IT) which is a pity. :-(

- G

I'd almost think you were my ex if your profile didn't say you were in the south.

He was a total sci-fi geek and worked in IT and it never bothered me. What bothered me was that although I was prepared to engage his interests, he was never prepared to do the same and found my love for the arts boring. He never engaged in what i would consider a meaningful conversation (that is something about world events etc and not simply everyday humdrum things), he merely sat and nodded his head.

He was also a wet fish, clingy and overly emotional which is why it didn't work.

But I do think opposites can work if the people involved are willing to put the effort in. It's a pity you can't seem to meet anyone who is happy with your interests, there are plenty of girls out there who think geeky guys are much better than any 'lad'.

OptimusNemesis

1940sGal wrote: »

I'd almost think you were my ex if your profile didn't say you were in the south.

He was a total sci-fi geek and worked in IT and it never bothered me. What bothered me was that although I was prepared to engage his interests, he was never prepared to do the same and found my love for the arts boring. He never engaged in what i would consider a meaningful conversation (that is something about world events etc and not simply everyday humdrum things), he merely sat and nodded his head.

He was also a wet fish, clingy and overly emotional which is why it didn't work.

But I do think opposites can work if the people involved are willing to put the effort in. It's a pity you can't seem to meet anyone who is happy with your interests, there are plenty of girls out there who think geeky guys are much better than any 'lad'.

I'm very open to picking up new interests from someone (in fact I have in the past) - I find someone having a passion about something an attractive quality.

Not sure whether you've read a post I made a couple of days ago (not sure whether it was in here or my other thread) but I had a very enjoyable date with someone who was into Geology a couple of months back. I actually learnt a couple of things (so at least it was educational). It's just a pity she behaved very strangely after meeting, before disappearing altogether.

Single girls looking for geeky guys all seem to be either up north and in the midlands here, or in the US or Canada - certainly for this geeky guy. I've had quite a few messages from women in those places but very very few near me. Maybe I should move and be done with it? ;-)

- G

Sparklebabey

Well I think you sound lovely...dare I say a dying breed of a decent gentleman (but I know there is a naughty side to you...I can tell!!;))

I have been out with a 'nerd' in the past (I'm not nerdy at all...aside from a slight obsession with Dr Who!) and I found it worked well....2 nerds together would get a bit heavy I think...you need the non nerd element!!:D

Sadly I am too far away for you G but I wish you well in your search...I genuinely mean that the girl that gets you will be a lucky lady as I just know that you treat your g/f's like princess'

1940sGal

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

I'm very open to picking up new interests from someone (in fact I have in the past) - I find someone having a passion about something an attractive quality.

Not sure whether you've read a post I made a couple of days ago (not sure whether it was in here or my other thread) but I had a very enjoyable date with someone who was into Geology a couple of months back. I actually learnt a couple of things (so at least it was educational). It's just a pity she behaved very strangely after meeting, before disappearing altogether.

Single girls looking for geeky guys all seem to be either up north and in the midlands here, or in the US or Canada - certainly for this geeky guy. I've had quite a few messages from women in those places but very very few near me. Maybe I should move and be done with it? ;-)

- G

haha I'm in the north, for now at least. If i do end up relocating, one of the things i'm looking forward to most is meeting new people and getting away from northern men. I've had enough of them!

Ellie83

Oh my OP, thanks so much for starting this thread! It's like a whole new world has opened up for me! I am happily married but in desperate need of geeky friends! I am having to relocate and will lose daily contact with the only person I have ever met who loved learning more than I do!!! Now I know where to go to try and meet friends

I am a terrible geek, sci-fi and fantasy being my thing (or anything really, as long as I can learn something new!) I love sci-fi so much, I turned it into a PhD (in progress)

OP, I think you're seeking someone with natural intellectual curiosity. I hope you find the girl of your dreams, geeky or not