would this offend you or are people just to touchy

Nicki

I get that the OP found the cartoon funny and wanted to share it.

I get that it didn't occur to her beforehand that it might offend her mother in law.

I also get that some posters who are mothers in law wouldn't be offended if their daughters in law posted that cartoon.

What I don't get at all, is that now that OP knows that the cartoon has upset her mother in law she isn't rushing to make amends, and that some posters are supporting her in that. Why on earth if you accidentally did something which caused distress and embarrassment to someone you care about, over something so meaningless to you, would you not do all in your power to make things right? That is IMHO more insulting and offensive than posting the cartoon in the first place!

Bitsy_Beans

Nicki wrote: »

I get that the OP found the cartoon funny and wanted to share it.

I get that it didn't occur to her beforehand that it might offend her mother in law.

I also get that some posters who are mothers in law wouldn't be offended if their daughters in law posted that cartoon.

What I don't get at all, is that now that OP knows that the cartoon has upset her mother in law she isn't rushing to make amends, and that some posters are supporting her in that. Why on earth if you accidentally did something which caused distress and embarrassment to someone you care about, over something so meaningless to you, would you not do all in your power to make things right? That is IMHO more insulting and offensive than posting the cartoon in the first place!

Erm OP rang to apologise and realised MIL had plans to go out so she has sent her a text. Not sure how you can suggest she's not rushing to make amends? If she'd done nothing then I would agree but she had made an attempt to speak to MIL.

Tish_P

I don't know whether it would upset me. It doesn't matter who else it would upset - maybe she herself would have laughed under different circumstances or if whoever you think phoned her had phrased it differently. But none of that matters. As Nicki says above, the problem now is that you have upset someone important to you, so make with the flowers and sincere apology for hurting her feelings.

bestpud

It made me smile but, if I was friends with my mil on FB, I wouldn't share it without a comment clearly stating it isn't about her!

I unwittingly upset my mil by posting stuff about my OH on FB and it got back to her.

She felt she should have been first to know, and in in ideal world she may have been partly correct, but we don't live in an ideal world and I was offended by her assumption it was a deliberate snub!

My OH soon put her right though - he told her to wind her neck in as she didn't know the full story and was actually talking rubbish (most of her assumptions about FB come from newspapers and gossip as she has never switched on a computer in her life!) She eventually (sort of) apologised!

I love FB, but it causes strife sometimes and gossips/$h1t stirrers love it! Just apologise and move on.

Nicki

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Erm OP rang to apologise and realised MIL had plans to go out so she has sent her a text. Not sure how you can suggest she's not rushing to make amends? If she'd done nothing then I would agree but she had made an attempt to speak to MIL.

But having not managed to speak to MIL at the time she is now constructing a scenario where it is MIL in the wrong for being too sensitive and another relative's fault for stirring things. Based on OP's own posts there is no indication of any kind that she intends to offer a genuine apology or that she has even taken it off her wall, rather that she is going to explain to MIL why it was unreasonable of her to be offended :cool:

Bitsy_Beans

Nicki wrote: »

But having not managed to speak to MIL at the time she is now constructing a scenario where it is MIL in the wrong for being too sensitive and another relative's fault for stirring things. Based on OP's own posts there is no indication of any kind that she intends to offer a genuine apology or that she has even taken it off her wall, rather that she is going to explain to MIL why it was unreasonable of her to be offended :cool:

Sorry but I find this all a bit of a stretch.
I find it ironic that people will read everything into the actions of the OP and yet knock the OP for doing the same of the person who rang and told the MIL.
Just because we are having a conversation as to whether the pic is offensive or not does not automatically equate with the OP not being prepared to apologise.

fluffnutter

But what is interesting is that, whilst waiting to make an apology, the OP is on the interweb harnessing opinion as to whether it was an unreasonable thing to do or not. If we all say 'no! it was hilarious, don't worry about it, your MIL's obviously just got no sense of humour' will that then influence the apology? Is the OP trying to arm herself with public opinion so that she can say to her MIL 'actually I think you're making a big fuss'? Just a thought.

It's as if she's missing the most important fact - that she has upset her MIL and therefore she needs to deal with that. It doesn't matter what we all think.

hazyjo

It's the first bit of it that's offensive, I think.

Most grandmothers want to help - and she probably does get involved to a certain extent - and now wonders if you think she's interfering, etc.

If I had a DiL who posted 'I don't need you to teach me how to handle my children...', the rest of it would disappear in my mind. That bit in itself would sting and, yes, I would take it personally.

I can see the joke in that your husband is classed as a child too, but I do not see how that relates to this picture. It's like you're trying to get a dig in.

Jx

Penny-Pincher!!

I wouldn't care as I loathe my MIL.

Bluemeanie_2

If you have no other history of bad feeling or tension between you, I would have taken it as a joke. But then I have a sense of humour...!