would this offend you or are people just to touchy

Lunar_Eclipse

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

Its not like it even says don't tell me how to bring up my kids, or anything such as that.

Yes it does. It says "I don't need you to teach me how to handle my children" (ie stop interfering), followed by a dig at her parenting by way of how her son/daughter needs improvement.

I can see that it's both funny and insulting at the same time, yet posting it where your MIL will see it is basically sticking your two fingers up at her. Do you really not see that?

Keiko_summer

The trouble with pictures like that is that they can be read 1001 different ways - an unfortunately your mother in law thinks you're posting it in a 'catty' way All you can do is take it down and apologise profusely,and insist that you meant it as a joke! xx

Person_one

Keiko_summer wrote: »

The trouble with pictures like that is that they can be read 1001 different ways - an unfortunately your mother in law thinks you're posting it in a 'catty' way All you can do is take it down and apologise profusely,and insist that you meant it as a joke! xx

I wouldn't 'insist' anything.

There's no worse kind of apology than 'I'm sorry, but really I didn't do anything wrong'!

Dasa

annie_d wrote: »

I would be a bit upset I think just in case it was aimed at me but I would never say anything and always let it pass. Everything passes.

Do you think so, 'cause I don't, usually it gets tucked away ready to come out when the time is right.

pineapple

Mado wrote: »

Maybe you need a dictionnary instead of a transplant.

Well someone certainly needs a dictionary to spell dictionary! :rotfl:

londonsurrey

The bottom line is that your MIL is upset.

It may be because :
1 - she's not as robust as you thought
2 - your relationship is not as comfortable as you thought it was
3 - how she took it was made worse by the nosey "friend"

Whatever the reason, do you want to fix it? If so, then apologise, then take the steps necessary to ensure it doesn't happen again. List the reasons it happened, add to the list above as necessary, then tackle them:

1 - be careful what you say, start by either making another id on Facebook, or carefully defriending her, or be careful on Facebook. In other words, take responsibility for your future actions, now that you know better

2 - be extra nice to her, you've hurt her feelings, albeit without meaning to. This is called making up.

3 - as suggested before, drop the poisonous friends, you've surely got better things to do with your time, both of you.

Mojisola

mummyoftwomonkeys - what have you decided to do?

Wickedkitten

Whether you put it up on your facebook page because you found it funny is neither here nor there, I would question the motivations of the person that felt like they needed to phone up your MIL to tell her about it.

arbroath_lass

Gavin83 wrote: »

If she says something then all you need to say is that you don't wish to fall out over comments on your facebook taken the wrong way and therefore you feel it's easier if she no longer has the ability to view your facebook page. If your feeling nice about it just add something about it being unnecessary as your good friends in real life anyway. Just make it clear it wasn't aimed at her, you saw it on someone elses page and found it funny.

I don't think its a good idea to add family anyway, it only leads to trouble. The only 'family' member who has attempted to add me was my girlfriends dad and I rejected his request. This wasn't a problem and it didn't lead to any 'miscommunications' in the future.

Well that's one way to ensure she KNOWS it WAS about her. And she'll feel she's been deleted so you can talk about her a bit more.

No reason why you can't add family on fb. All you have to do is treat them with respect.

Tiddlywinks

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Whether you put it up on your facebook page because you found it funny is neither here nor there, I would question the motivations of the person that felt like they needed to phone up your MIL to tell her about it.

Their 'motivation' is beside the point.... if the OP had thought the 'joke' through BEFORE she posted it on FB then there wouldn't have been anything to be reported to the MIL, would there?