would this offend you or are people just to touchy

Mado

pineapple wrote: »

Well someone certainly needs a dictionary to spell dictionary! :rotfl:

Well thank you for that;I'm always grateful for help with typos and spelling and I'm rubbish with the spell check on the iPad.
The word does have 2 ns in my mother tongue. But fortunately, I understand the meaning of it.:p

marisco_2

The problem with jokes like this OP is that they are funny until it is you that is the one the joke is directed at.

If you had just shared it with your friends I am sure most could relate to it on some level or another from their own experiences with husbands and MILs', and would find it funny.

I know that had I sent that to my ex mil or if my mum had recieved it from her dil then it would offend them. It would also make my mum, who is a real worrier, be concerned how her dil viewed her involvement with her grandchildren.

I am sure you thought the joke would be viewed in a lighthearted way. As it has caused unintended offense and upset though, I guess the best thing to do is to apologise and clear the air with your MIL. Would be a shame for something like this to effect your relationship with someone who up till now you got on well and could have a laugh and a joke with.

Mojisola

marisco wrote: »

I know that had I sent that to my ex mil or if my mum had recieved it from her dil then it would offend them. It would also make my mum, who is a real worrier, be concerned how her dil viewed her involvement with her grandchildren.

I think this is the problem - that the "joke" is saying something direct to MILs.

If the OP had posted a joke about some other matter that her MIL found distasteful, I would have said that was her problem, different people find different things funny, etc, but this was directed to one person so it's not surprising her MIL was upset by it.

LadyMorticia

I found it funny but I wouldn't post it on my page.

It's the kind of thing that would need to be taken in context. My MIL is fantastic and we have a great relationship. If I showed it to her in person with an explanation of how she is nothing like that, she would find it amusing. However, if I just posted it on my page then there wouldn't necessarily be any context to it and it might offend her.

I don't get all these MIL jokes either, to be honest, or why so much emphasis is put on most people supposedly having a "strained" relationship with their MILs. Most of the people I know have fantastic relationships with their partner's parents!

Abbafan1972

OP, I am on Facebook, but the only family I have on there is my uncle (well apart from my DH & 2 kids).

If I had a good relationship with my MIL, then I guess she would find it offensive, but the reality is that we hate each other and don't speak anymore (DH doesn't speak to her anymore either), so it wouldn't bother me if she saw something like that.

OP, did you know that you can add friends to "lists", so you can hide posts from certain people. I have a couple of friends who don't appreciate "rude" things, so they are on that list to not see them.

luxor4t

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

I was on facebook ( yes i know) the other day and a friend had a pic on her profile of a cartoon ladies face and it said "dear mother in law, I don't need you to teach me how to handle my children, I have one of yours living at home and he needs a lot of improvement" ......

I've thought that about my MIL, but I wouldn't say it to her or post it where she could read it.

My aim as a MIL is NEVER to gave any form of advice, even when asked - I have been subjected to too much unasked 'advice' and cricicism to dish it out!

Wickedkitten

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Their 'motivation' is beside the point.... if the OP had thought the 'joke' through BEFORE she posted it on FB then there wouldn't have been anything to be reported to the MIL, would there?

Sure if the MIL is a precious little flower that thinks there might be some truth in the statement.

Mado

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Sure if the MIL is a precious little flower that thinks there might be some truth in the statement.

Why do you need to insult someone you don't know?

Judging by this thread, it appears that a sizeable Proportion of posters (an easy majority even) doesn't find it funny or appropriate. So why would someone have to be a precious little flower to be hurt by this?

Jokes are not always easy to convey. The Internet is making is even more awkward as you can't add other cues to help with interpretation.

Tiddlywinks

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Sure if the MIL is a precious little flower that thinks there might be some truth in the statement.

Someone told the MIL that there was a joke on her DIL's FB page that appeared to be at her expense - she looked and was offended by the 'joke'.... why does that make her a 'precious little flower'?

As someone else has said, the majority on this thread feel that the 'joke' was a mistake so.... are we all 'precious' or are you less sensitive than the majority?

LilMissEmmylou

my MIL would find it funny I find it funny... my mum however would not! I detest when people ring her telling her what is on my facebook (mainly my aunts do this as she hasnt got facebook!) and blowing it out of proportion.